Can i live without him?

Question

Okay, so my husband and I are trying to be successful together. Our problem is that I am in school and expecting. I will be moving at the end of this year because the graduate school that I want to attend is in a different city. My husband and I have discussed him moving to the city where I will attend school so that he can have a home ready for me and the children-including the newborn. We have the issue with the possibility of him missing the birth of the baby since we will be so far apart and at the same time, we do not want to be apart. We really do not know what the best thing is. Would it be selfish of us to stay together and possibly be put in a difficult financial siituation? 4 months is a long time and I would like to see my husband more than on the weekends. He will only be back for about a week after the baby is born to help because of his job. I do not want to be apart 4 a minute.

Answer 1

Four months is a long time for an expectant mother who has a career. This decision is up to you and hubby. How are you going to go to graduate school, raise the other kids, be pregnant? Will you have help? You are not love birds anymore, remember, you guys now have a family and you have to make smart family decisions. Love if it is there will survive the four months. Look at the whole picture and then you guys make a wise decision. A wise decision can only be made by ya'll because you guys are the only ones that know your true financial status.

Answer 2

get a web cam you will see eachother every day and why cant he be there for the birth...that is sad......but succeed and have a wonderful future.....love eachother deeply and all will be fine......being a military wife....seperation is sad...but you can do it...

Answer 3

Sis, when I answer this question I want you to keep in mind that I'm a Navy Wife.  OK?

Four months is not long....  Allow that man of yours to do what he feels he needs to do for your family.  That's his job.  You concentrate on being mommy, that pregnancy and school and let him do his job.  Before you know it...four months will be over and you all will be together again.  Keep the lines of communication open.  If you are uncomfortable with something...tell him.  Allow him to vent...and talk about his day.  You share yours with him.  Make sure you call each other every night to at least say I love you....  

OK...he may not be there for the birth...do you have a friend or family member who can step in?  Sis, where there is a will...there is a way.