Can i still spend time with my ex wife's family?

Question

is it ok to continue to talk and interact with my ex's family even though her and I don't get along so well? I never had a problem with anyone in her family and in fact i loved them alot. i always got along great with them and miss them. her father and i had a great relationship as well as her uncles and brother, i'm just not sure what the appropriate course of action is. thoughts of this were the hardest part for me once i decided i'd had enough. it never had anything to do with them. i don't expect to have the same relationship as before or to spend the same amount of time together i'd just like to be able to have some type of relationship with them.

Answer 1

You can but it may be awkward how well do you think you will get along with her dad with him knowing you bailed on his little girl and the uncles and rest of the family also. I mean especially if her parents have been married a long time chances are they have been threw their battles and they are still together that's part of marriage so they may look down on you for not sticking to it and fighting for your marriage.

Answer 2

I think it's great. You just need to make sure they are ok with it and that there are established boundaries.  

Answer 3

i don't really suggest it especially when you meet someone new its going to be awkward for her  

Answer 4

it depends as to how long you were married, and why did the marriage detiriate

if you screwed the marrige up, NOPE leave the family alone,

write a letter, and ask them  

Answer 5

i still have a wonderful relationship with my exes family. no problems at all, my husband is fine with it, and he actually has a relationship with them also.

Answer 6

you should be asking the her family that one but if the shoe was on the other foot would you like it if she plop her self in the middle of your world.

Answer 7

Your relationship with them will definitely change.  I would call and talk to those you are closest to and see how they feel.  If it causes discord in their family (with her), then they may have to choose and they should choose her.  This is part of the pain of divorce.  I am still friendly with my ex sister-in-law but it's not like it was.  I am glad that we still talk and we don't talk about my ex or the divorce.  

Answer 8

O.K but you have got to make sure that your ex isn't around while you are spending time with her family.  

Answer 9

I think it's ok.  I still talk to my ex's family - as a matter of fact, we are closer now than we ever were when I was with their son!  After we broke up, he really showed his ***, and his family realized that I wasn't what he was trying to make me out to be.  Besides that, he and I have kids together, so of course I try to keep all those relationships as good as possible for the sake of my children.  My ex's family has even stayed at my home with me and my new husband and stepdaughter when they were in town.  That usually sounds odd to people who don't know us, but it works for us, and I guess that's all that matters.  There is really no reason why you can't still have  a good relationship with your ex's family, but I do agree with a previous post - try not to talk about your ex if at all possible.  good luck.

Answer 10

That's really great that you have that kind of relationship with them. Try giving them a call. My only fear is that your ex may have turned them against you, by saying things that may not be true. If they listen to her, they may not be the same people you used to know.  

Answer 11

As long as you don't:

a) Involve them in your relationship and

b) Have some sort of respect for her and boundaries (don't go to dinner with them if she is going if you two don't get along).

Answer 12

I would say yes, but give it some time and try to not bring up your marriage or divorce to them. They probably love you too but b/c it is their daughter/ family it could be awkward. My husband's family told me that if anything ever happened between us that they would still want to see me. Just give them a call. But be prepared, they may not welcome you with open arms.