Can long distance relationships ever work?

Question

I am a young 48 year old, he is 31. I live in London he lives in the Cameroon. We have both expressed a love for each other we are both Christians. We chat online and on the phone but have never met, could this relationship ever hope to succeed?

Answer 1

Hello,

I tried that sort of thing before as have some of my friends.

I like this Mexican proverb that says it all:

Un amor de lejos

Esta pendejos!

Which essentially says, long distance relationships are a SOB.

Even after you meet and are eventually apart again, being separated you don't grow and nourish your relationship and you are most likely as not to succumb to many temptations as you meet new wonderful people of the opposite s*x.

Cheers,

Michael Kelly

Answer 2

No.

Answer 3

Nope.

It's doomed to failure before it even starts in earnest.

But don't feel too bad about it; short distance relationships don't work either.

It's not about the distance, it's about humans. They never make truly lasting relationships.

Answer 4

Short answer. NO.

Sorry th break it to you, but tyour Camerooni lover is probably a smooth talking guy who's looking for his entry visa. He may be the very soul of christian virtue on line, but hey, I can be a real girl on line just as convincingly.

I suspect you are being lied to, and if you want my advice, cut him off now before you make a terrible mistake.

If you're that excited about god and church, try attending one, if you already do, and havent met anyone, arrange some inter church socials, or... Just walk to the next nearest church and meet a guy there. One who's there for you, can buy you coffee every day, and has a British passport already.

No offence meant, please think about this very carefully.

Answer 5

Well, I would think you would have to meet eventually.  You can't really judge compatibility and love based solely on online and telelphone conversations.  

Answer 6

if you make an effort for it to work. I have been i a few long lasting long distant relationships.

Answer 7

Absolutley!!! Im a little younger than you but I have experienced that long distance relationships can work. Me and my fiancee' have been toghether for a year and three months and we started off as a long distance relationships. High phone bills and constant online conversation is something I am all to familiar with. She lived in florida and i stayed in georgia for the first 6 months of us meeting and beginning to date the phone and internet is all we had. I asked her to take a trip to georgia for this special weekend she agreed to it months in advance and ever since that day we have been together. So yes it can work  but it takes will power, self control, communication and trust. Which im sure you probably all ready have and if is  fate or destiny you two will eventually meet.

Answer 8

all depends on how eager you are to make it work and the same for him.

Answer 9

Well they can yes if u know how to make them work. You need some key things to make it work:

1. Trust

2. Time

3.And love

have all that and it will work.

Its important to keep in touch with each other and dont let the flame die. Your talking online and on the phone but you could also send letters. This keeps u in touch and is very romantic at the same time. You could also send little gifts to let him know how much you love him and that you are thinking about him. It would also be a good idea to see him as soon as you can.

All the best

Rachael x

Answer 10

My teacher's long distance relationship worked, but eventuaklly you would want to move in togetrher and be closer to one another. . . When "Love" really KICKS IN.

Answer 11

yes it is hard but if you both love each other it will work

Answer 12

What relationship?  How can one have a relationship with a person they've never met?  All you know is words; you've never looked in his eyes to see if he speaks true; you've never felt his presence to see if he's a warm and genuine person.

You will never know until you meet in person.  You have no relationship now, all you have is a chat buddy.

Just my opinion - others will differ.

Answer 13

You should try to meet asap.People can be MUCH different in person that we imagine them to be.And I believe that they can work if both are devoted enough,not the jealous types,etc.Best wishes...