Can love really be one sided?

Question

If only one person feels it for the other person, can it really be love? Or is it really just lust?

Answer 1

It can really be love.

I was in a relationship that was on the whole one sided from day one. I wanted to believe he was sincere; kept forgiving him when he'd use my good graces and then shaft me, paid his bills and put up with his drug addiction pay his way (foolishly believing his promises of changing with my help and love) to find he was transparent all along using my money to pay his so called dealer (or else) that the two of them were not only using my money to party, but were having s*x as well. I was tired of hanging on the gate and when he shafted me the last time for his dealer lover, I let him go with no argument. Now two years later he's wanting back into my life. I will be his friend, but not his lover or financier. One who sleeps with dogs lands up with flees. He still has flees.

Love is blind and it is hard for anyone to tell another person who is in love that they are making a mistake. One has to be burned first I guess. I now take the adage, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me".

Answer 2

If your feelings are purely carnal, then it is just lust. However, it is possible to develop feelings of love for somebody based on their personality and character, as well. That those feelings may not be mutual does not negate them. Thus the term "unrequited love."

Answer 3

Its completly possible!! i was head over heels for my 1st gf did not want anyone else bla bla the whole story. But she was not over her ex, so well it just never worked out. It happens often!  

Answer 4

Oh, a person can absolutely love someone without having that love returned.  Unrequited love is common and it doesn't mean that no love exists -- it's just not reciprocated (which can obviously be a painful thing).  

Answer 5

yes it is possible.but true love is loving someone without needing them to love you back, it is being happy if they are whether they are with you or not.

Answer 6

Absolutely. Think about it.  You may love ice cream. Does it love you back? No. Same thing applies to people, you can love someone without loving them back.

Answer 7

I think I love the young man a couple blocks from my house.  I'd do anything for him.  Can't really picture being intimate with him, have never held him, and he doesn't care much for me at all.  But it still feels like love.  There wouldn't be unrequited love if one person wasn't actually in love.

Answer 8

infatuation !

Answer 9

Yes you can love someone and they may not love you. The same goes for lust.  It can hurt so bad.  

Answer 10

Yes

You can love someone to bits but they may well have no feelings for you in the same way

Answer 11

ohh yes...

No i am not sure actually.....the only people i actually love...love me back.

I can remember somebody i loved, it was definately not mutual! But come to think of it, i am not even sure it was love and not lust!

Answer 12

yes.  it's called unrequited love.  

Answer 13

Unfortunately, yes.

Answer 14

Yes, love can be one sided, too.

Answer 15

You can feel love for a person if you already have a relationship with that person even it's only on a friendship level.  You can be in love with them even if it's not returned, not just lust.

Answer 16

Of course!!

Love can be one-sided...& why not????

It is sometimes lust,but love can be one-sided!!

Answer 17

I think you can seriously be in lust with someone who doesn't like you back. You hear about it all the time - fancying a teacher, for example. A student may feel they "love" their teacher, but I believe you can only truly love someone when you totally know everything about them, you both share the same feelings and you BOTH feel a connection. Love is greater when it's shared.