Can mood swings occur with just one particular person?

Question

For about three years I have been dating this chick and its seems that we get into it about every other day! Its like I would be fine one min but as soon as I see that she has done something wrong like half cleaning the dishes I flip like my mood just goes downward and I feel disgusted about her.Because of this we don't even get a long much and i am becoming unattractive to her and VS could I be bipolar or something?

Answer 1

You just need some time away from each other. You probably see each other too often. It's normal, couples fight. You'll get over it eventually.

Answer 2

Hi,

perhaps it's time to take a break from each other.  figure out what the relationship holds for you.  maybe it's time to move on, you know, like when the other person's breathing bothers you it's time to move on?

figure out what really are the issues about her, it's more than just the dishes, right?  that's just the tip of the iceberg, yes?  perhaps she is half-assed about a lot of things?  or generally messy?  

sounds like you need to sort out why you love her and why you want to be with her.  then, figure out if the little things are worth putting up with.  if you really love her and want to be with her, then try to talk about some compromises or resolutions to help you both be happier.  find and offer solutions, not just criticisms.

maybe you could do the dishes while she works on something else that she is better at.  or, maybe she is just lazy and doesn't do anything, and that's why you're upset.  talk to her.  TALK, not you two get into a screaming match.  sit down and talk about if you two really still want to be with each other.

i mean, you call her 'this chick" that you've been dating.  it doesn't really sound like you have any special feelings for her.  maybe it's time to move on for both your sakes.

communicating well means listening and trying to understand the other person's point of view.  trying to come up with solutions and not just blaming each other.  standing back and wondering what you can do to help the situation.  the goal is for both sides to live and co-exist happily, so the talk has to go in that direction.  if neither of you are willing to work with each other to make a better relationship then things won't get better.

you don't have to agree with everything that each other says, but you both need to respect the other person's feelings, wants, opinions, suggestions, requests, etc...  you don't have to do everything that each other wants, but sometimes compromises are necessary and beneficial to the relationship.

if you just butt heads you'll get nowhere.  if you do everything you can to the best of your ability to make a happy relationship and peaceful and respectful talks, and she won't help, then you got to go.

but, i suspect it's not all her fault.

if you two love each other but don't know how to communicate but still want to be with each other, then try some couples counseling to learn how to get through issues without everything turning into a world war.

if all that sounds like too much work, and you just don't love her, then set her free so both of you can move on and hopefully find someone that makes you happy and that you make happy.

relationships take effort, and it's really just not that hard to try to make the other person feel loved, wanted, respected, important, appreciated, etc... it just takes a little effort.  selfishness, pride, vindictiveness, stubbornness, etc... they just have no place in a relationship.  

the point is to make each other happy, to make the best and happiest relationship you can.

hope it works out

Answer 3

If you were bipolar then it wouldn't happen with just one person. There's maybe some unresolved issues with this person.