Can mother in law take my child away from me?...please help!?

Question

my husband and i live with his mother. things were good at first but then she starts trying to control my baby(6 months) just certain things she says throw up red flags to me. saying stuff like it's "her baby" "her child" which really scares me. lately she has been talking bad about my husband(her only child) and myself like we aren't nothing. she also makes comments about how my daughter is'nt fed enough solids or bathed enough and that i cause her to get rashes....these remarks are TOTALLY UNTRUE! i am a 1st time mom but by god i am doing the best i can! i love my child w/ all my heart and have thid fear if something goes sour between us she will try and take our baby away....am i being too paranoid? i'm afraid to leave her house b/c she is sooo revengeful. i want to leave though. she is set to get a BIG inheritance within the next 2 years. money=power? can she hire expensive lawyers and take us to court for our baby? we don't have money to fight back. she's crazy! please help us!

Answer 1

it will take ALOT to take your child from u but ... u sound like a forward flash of me and u have me second guessing moving in to my fiances moms house now with my child, just try to find a place and when u fond something and she ask y, say its gettin to cramped and u kno she would like to have her space,

Answer 2

No. She can't take it away unless you are legitimately a bad parent. Just talk it over with her or have your husband do it(it is his mother after all). If you can manage you may need to just leave the house. In order for her to still feel involved try taking peices of her advice and make sure she knows your doing it. This can't be an agressive/competive thing.

Answer 3

Move out! you and your man need your own place as soon as possible.

Answer 4

Move out!!! I know it is easy to say, hard to do when $$ is an issue.  But I'd rather be dirt poor, and have my baby living in a healthy household than be rich and in the place you described.

She can not take the baby from you, unless she can prove you and your husband are unfit parents.  As long as there is no drug use, neglect, or any type of abuse you'll be just fine.

Answer 5

NO! She can't take your baby away. There is no basis for her to even try to take you to court. You are an adult, move out. Care for your family, and forget about HER! Your family goes first...then she is just there to say hi to at christmas parties. She can't take your baby away, now lets say if you beat the baby, or really treat it wrongfully and she proves it, then she can. But other than that NO WAY!

MOVE OUT! CARE FOR YOUR CHILD AND HUSBAND, AND KICK HER TO THE CURB!

Answer 6

Please try to calm down and relax.  You can hear the panic in your words.  Sit back and try to think clearly, speak with your husband about it and see if he feels the same.  

You are getting some good advice from some of the replies, please read them carefully and then, if you share a computer with your in laws, please remember to delete your browsing history.  Best of luck

Answer 7

If you and your husband is unfit then i might would worry but if not then STOP thinking this way.

You all need to move out and get your own place. Two families cannot live in the same home.

Get an apartment......Sign up on hud, so whatever to move out.

(By the way most mother in laws love to go on like that and cause trouble, mine does the same, i cannot stand her)

Answer 8

It is very hard for a mother to be stripped of her right as a parent but it can be done, however it would take years to do and would involve the Department of Human Services(I'm assuming you live in USA) also it doesn't mean that your m-i-l would get the child either, the courts generally side with the mother and since you have a husband as well that works more in your favor.  I wouldn't worry about it too much you seem like a good mom from what you've typed here.  I would recommend moving out, I know that in the US there are programs set up to allow couple who have finance limitations to live in low rent apartments or homes. The DHS has some leads otherwise look at Public Health they generally have some leads to help as well.  Good luck

Answer 9

I would listen to your gut and the red flags.  Move out.  There are some really creepy and crazy MIL's out there.  Get a notebook and document everything.  I will hold up in a court of law.  Good Luck.

Answer 10

1st -you, your husband, and your baby need to move ASAP!

2nd- no she cant take your child. She would have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you're both unfit parents, so dont worry about that. But you do need to get out before you go insane and your not mentally or physically where you need to be for your child....Good luck!

Answer 11

There is no way a Grandma can take a child away from a perfectly good Mother and Father. Now if you guys were both crack heads and in and out of jail, that might be a different story.

Answer 12

Youre being paranoid, the only way they would take your child away from you is if youre a prostitiute on the streets strung out on crack 24/ 7, i take it you arent so dont worry she CANT take your baby no matter how many lawyers she hires.  But she sounds like a mean old bat, you should try to leave that house as soon as possible, she might try to poison u or something.

Answer 13

she would have to show that you are unfit to be a mother. drinking, drugs, violence, convictions, etc.

Answer 14

WOW this is shocking get the h**l out of there Im sure you are a grat mum being a mum myself and expecting my second its dam hard but worth it, surely the fact that she is coming into money shouldnt matter I wouldnt give a toss about themoney I would be outta there, no self respeecting judge would take a happy, contented child away form its mother/ffather for no reason so dont worry but seriously please get outta there for the sack of your child

Answer 15

No, she can't take the baby away.  Even if she had all the lawyers in the world they would have no basis.

You need to grow up.  Who care's if she's vengeful?  You're an adult, you're married, and you have your child to look after.  Go get your own place to live.

Answer 16

First of all, a child doesn't NEED solids before age 1. Breast milk or formula is all a child needs nutritionally the first 12 months.

If your child isn't rolling in the mud you can still bath 3-4 times a week still at this age. CPS doesn't care as long as your child isn't covered in mud.

All babies get rashes in the summer. The only way to avoid it is to leave your child naked all day. Heat + moisture = rash, there is no way to completely avoid it.

You need to move out and away from here. Even if you guys go live in a studio apartment and go on food stamps, it would be better than how things are now.

As far as taking your child away... unless you are abusing your child in some way, she has no chance of taking away your child. You have to seriously neglect your child for both parents to lose custody. If you aren't on drugs and you regularly feed your child and don't leave her home alone, you are fine.