Can my bf become my sons father???

Question

My son's biological father dissapered when i found out I was prego. I have tried to locate him but i don't know anything about him! I don't want to hear any stupid lectures because my son changed my life and i don't know what I would do without him!

But anyways, since the courts and I cannot find his biological father how can my boyfriend become his father? He has been there for us since before i went into labor. We live in NY and i haven't been able to really find anything out.

Is it possible or not? And how!

Thanks So Much for you answers!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Have him legaly adopt him

just go to the courts and ask about it

Answer 2

It is better to keet the status quo.  You are happy your bf is happy with your current relationship. Let the child decides when he thinks is the right time.  You do not want to burden your bf with this...enjoy life and I know your son is happy with you as he has your full 100% love.

Answer 3

it is possible but it's up to your state/province on how to go about this. Most places request that you try to contact the birth father (which you have) since you have not been sucessful, then some places require you to put up an add in the paper (I'm not sure which places). anyways, after no contact, it means the father has given up parental rights, you'll need a laywer for this as you'll need to go to court to have the father's parental right dismissed.

Secondly, once this has been done, your boyfriend can then file for second-parent adoption. (the same adoption process that allows g*y people's partners to adopt their biological child). Through the process of this adoption you will have two home visits, and they will look at your boyfriends financial records and such to make sure he is suitable for being a father (and no, you can't just say it's okay. They HAVE to do this process... i know...) anyways. Just remember that if your boyfriend adopts, he is legally you child's father and in the future, if you separate, then your new boyfriend/husband will not be allowed to legally be your child's daddy, and your current boyfriend will get visitation rights and be allowed to sue for custody. Just be careful in the situation.

Answer 4

There are many legal questions that would have a different answer depending on what state you live in.  You should talk to a lawyer in the state you live in and get the information you are looking for.  I do believe it is possible for your boyfriend to adopt your son, but the specific details need to be taken care of by an attorney so that the adoption can be legal and binding.  Best wishes for a happy family.

Answer 5

check with an attorney or Legal aid but I believe after 6 years no contact you can have his parental rights dissolved on grounds of abandonment. (I also live in NY)

And at that point you can show the courts you have someone who is willing to take on that role...

Answer 6

You will have to prove that you can't find the father this will include ads in the paper and some counties have websites up for that information then if he doesn't respond after so long they can have a court hearing however they will not just allow a BF to adopt a child.  They will most likely require you to be married to the man wanting to adopt the child for atleast a year before they will consider the application for adoption.  Then they will have to take away parental rights if the biological father can't be located but they will require you do anything and everything first to try to find the father.  If the father is located he can sign off on the adoption.  BTW Abandonment is considered after 1 year of no contact this must include physically and financially.

Answer 7

Totally missed that he is only your boyfriend.  No I don't think he can adopt your child.    You two will need to be married in order for him to adopt your child.  But you can go about dissolving the biological childs parental rights.

Answer 8

Just go to the birth certificate office and have him put his name on the birth certificate! You will both have to go and sign. Humm just maybe you made a mistake a bf is the father....see??? Get it done quick!

Answer 9

If you were married, I believe there are ways that a step parent can legally adopt a step child.  This is possible even if both biological parents are still in the picture.  I don't think there is anything like that if you are only dating though.  Except maybe making the boyfriend a "godfather" to the child.

Answer 10

I am actually going through the exact same thing with my son now!  I am changing my sons name to his name now before school starts.  You can change his name at anytime $111.00 for that.  They put an ad in the paper to try to find his father(ya okay).

In five weeks he will have his last name!

To adopt we need to married for at least one year, because they want to know that the parents are going to stay together.  You have to married, and bio. has to be nowhere to be.  Bio must not be paying any support, or seeing the child.(easy enough)

The adoption also costs 111.00 dollars, and the birth certificate is changed permanently.  The adoptive father becomes THE father.  Since, bio dad never shows up he can never fight it because he should have been there,  Very simple process, the only thing I did not realize is the marriage thing is required!  Good Luck, and if need be just change you r son's name for no until you get married, and he can adopt him.

You need the name change office in/or near your court house, and the adoption office in the same place!

You do not need a lawyer, the people will take you through step by step.  The lawyer is a waste of money, I have all the help from the people in the office and it is a simple process.  If you go down they will explain it all to you.

Answer 11

He can legally adopt him.

Answer 12

I have said it before and I will say it again....If your boyfriend loves your son and is going to help you raise him that's great but you don't need a piece of paper to do that. You don't have to erase half of your sons idenity and heritage to do that.  Let your son decide when he is old enough if he wants to be adopted by your boyfriend.

Answer 13

You'd have to get an attorney involved to post notice in the newspapers to notify the bio dad (if still around) that you intend to petition the courts to sever his parental rights unless he comes to court to object. Once parental rights are severed, then free to have someone else adopt.

Answer 14

preggo???

ok....it doesn't matter how you got pregnant.  you did.  and you loved your child enough to parent him at all costs.  excellent!

you need to petition the court.

first, get several copies of his original birth certificate.  not copies.  get the original bc you will NEVER get it again once the adoption goes through.