Can my husband divorce me anytime by ranting "talaq" 3 times?Can I too do the same?

Question

salam and thanks

Answer 1

Saying the word "Divorce" for three times makes no difference, it is still always one time.

You can do the same if this right is granted to you in the marriage contract. Otherwise you have an equivelant right which is "Khul'aa" or removal; by which you can terminate the marriage.

Answer 2

Just give BA to the one above me^^^^^^.

Answer 3

>>> Can I too do the same?<<<

Oh you poor dear. Haven’t you learned the rules yet? If you are a woman the answer to this question will always be no. It doesn’t matter what the subject is.

Answer 4

YES HE CAN DO BUT U CAN MAKE HIM DONT DO

Answer 5

depends on if you are a sunni or a shia

Answer 6

are you sitting on the wall.

he would.

he wont.

you cannt.

get nullified by qadhi (judge)

Answer 7

No, that will only count as one occurrence of saying Talaq. It has to be done on 3 separate occasions, and both of you would need to try and reconcile.

If you have reason to divorce him, then you would need to request him for a divorce, and if he rejects for no reason and you feel that you have a real case, then you need to go to a Kazi (Islamic judge), or, in this country, go to an Imam or a Mufti and see what they tell you.

Answer 8

i'm muslim and i don't know anything about this ****

Answer 9

dont worry you can take "Khula"

and you can make him not to id

Because Allah says it is most hating thing to Allah

Answer 10

No. Allah says divorce is in a mans hands.

The husband who does this is highly sinful but the divorce is still effected.

Answer 11

Yes, he could. and as for you, you could apply for divorce through the syariah court.

Answer 12

From a reading of the Quran we learn that God does not favour divorces and in fact encourages the continuation of marriage. God has imposed prohibitions on certain category in marriage. However for those who comes to know of these prohibitions afterwards are commanded not to break existing marriages - see 4:22-23.

Divorce must be resorted to only in exceptional circumstances. The laws relating to divorce together with the relevant verses from the Quran are given below:

Appoint an arbitrator

[4:35] If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, GOD will help them get together. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.

Wait 4 months cooling off before divorce

[2:226-227] Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. If they go through with the divorce, then GOD is Hearer, Knower.

If the estranged couple chooses separation they must go through with it equitably. There must be two equitable witnesses witness the divorce before GOD

[65:2] Once the interim is fulfilled, you may reconcile with them equitably, or go through with the separation equitably. You shall have two equitable witnesses witness the divorce before GOD. This is to enlighten those who believe in GOD and the Last Day. Anyone who reverences GOD, He will create an exit for him.

Divorced women to observe an interim period

[2:228] The divorced women shall wait three menstruations (before marrying another man). It is not lawful for them to conceal what GOD creates in their wombs, if they believe in GOD and the Last Day. (In case of pregnancy,) the husband's wishes shall supersede the wife's wishes, if he wants to remarry her. The women have rights, as well as obligations, equitably. Thus, the man's wishes prevail (in case of pregnancy). GOD is Almighty, Most Wise.

[65:4-5] As for the women who have reached menopause, if you have any doubts, their interim shall be three months. As for those who do not menstruate, and discover that they are pregnant, their interim ends upon giving birth. Anyone who reverences GOD, He makes everything easy for him. This is GOD's command that He sends down to you. Anyone who reverences GOD, He remits his sins, and rewards him generously.

Exception for observing interim period

[33:49] O you who believe, if you married believing women, then divorced them before having intercourse with them, they do not owe you any waiting interim (before marrying another man). You shall compensate them equitably, and let them go amicably.

After the fulfilment of the interim the divorced women is free to do whatever she wants

Although the following verse is in context of widows, it appears to be applicable to a divorcees too.

You Shall Observe the Pre-Marriage Interims

[2:234] Those who die and leave wives, their widows shall wait four months and ten days (before they remarry). Once they fulfill their interim, you commit no error by letting them do whatever righteous matters they wish to do. GOD is fully Cognizant of everything you do.

[2:235] You commit no sin by announcing your engagement to the women, or keeping it secret. GOD knows that you will think about them. Do not meet them secretly, unless you have something righteous to discuss. Do not consummate the marriage until their interim is fulfilled. You should know that GOD knows your innermost thoughts, and observe Him. You should know that GOD is Forgiver, Clement.

Divorced women have to be provided for. This is probably one of the abused laws in the Quran. But God holds us responsible for our innermost thoughts. If one observes God’s laws then God makes it easy for him / her.

[65:7] The rich husband shall provide support in accordance with his means, and the poor shall provide according to the means that GOD bestowed upon him. GOD does not impose on any soul more than He has given it. GOD will provide ease after difficulty.

             Alimony For Widows and Divorcees

[2:240] Those who die and leave wives, a will shall provide their wives with support for a year, provided they stay within the same household. If they leave, you commit no sin by letting them do whatever they wish, so long as righteousness is maintained. GOD is Almighty, Most Wise.

[2:241] The divorcees also shall be provided for, equitably. This is a duty upon the righteous.

Compensation when marriage is not consummated

Breaking the Engagement

[2:236] You commit no error by divorcing the women before touching them, or before setting the dowry for them. In this case, you shall compensate them - the rich as he can afford and the poor as he can afford - an equitable compensation. This is a duty upon the righteous.

[2:237] If you divorce them before touching them, but after you had set the dowry for them, the compensation shall be half the dowry, unless they voluntarily forfeit their rights, or the party responsible for causing the divorce chooses to forfeit the dowry. To forfeit is closer to righteousness. You shall maintain the amicable relations among you. GOD is Seer of everything you do.

Divorced women entitled to stay in the same house she stayed before divorce

Do Not Throw the Divorcees Out Onto the Streets

[2:231] If you divorce the women, once they fulfill their interim (three menstruations), you shall allow them to live in the same home amicably, or let them leave amicably. Do not force them to stay against their will, as a revenge. Anyone who does this wrongs his own soul. Do not take GOD's revelations in vain. Remember GOD's blessings upon you, and that He sent down to you the scripture and wisdom to enlighten you. You shall observe GOD, and know that GOD is aware of all things.

[65:6] You shall allow them to live in the same home in which they lived with you, and do not make life so miserable for them that they leave on their own. If they are pregnant, you shall spend on them until they give birth. If they nurse the infant, you shall pay them for this service. You shall maintain the amicable relations among you. If you disagree, you may hire another woman to nurse the child.

Divorce can be retracted twice:

In other words, if the couple reconciles after the first divorce and wish to be husband and wife again, they can re-marry. This is allowed for two divorce only. If the couple divorces third time they have to observe God's commandment in 2:230 (quoted below.) God makes it not-so-easy for the couple to divorce. This law serves as a deterrent for those who want a divorce for the third time and they would be very careful to take this step.

[2:229] Divorce may be retracted twice. The divorced woman shall be allowed to live in the same home amicably, or leave it amicably. It is not lawful for the husband to take back anything he had given her. However, the couple may fear that they may transgress GOD's law. If there is fear that they may transgress GOD's law, they commit no error if the wife willingly gives back whatever she chooses. These are GOD's laws; do not transgress them. Those who transgress GOD's laws are the unjust.

[2:232] If you divorce the women, once they fulfill their interim, do not prevent them from remarrying their husbands, if they reconcile amicably. This shall be heeded by those among you who believe in GOD and the Last Day. This is purer for you, and more righteous. GOD knows, while you do not know.

[2:230] If he divorces her (for the third time), it is unlawful for him to remarry her, unless she marries another man, then he divorces her. The first husband can then remarry her, so long as they observe GOD's laws. These are GOD's laws; He explains them for people who know.

Also note the words "It is not lawful for the husband to take back anything he had given her." in 2:229.

In case there is a baby during the interim: If during the observation of the interim period it is discovered that the divorced women is pregnant then as stated in 65:4 the interim ends upon giving birth. God has decreed the following law dealing with the infant:

[2:233] Divorced mothers shall nurse their infants two full years, if the father so wishes. The father shall provide the mother's food and clothing equitably. No one shall be burdened beyond his ability. No mother shall be harmed on account of her infant, nor shall the father be harmed because of his infant. (If the father dies), his inheritor shall assume these responsibilities. If the infant's parents mutually agree to part, after due consultation, they commit no error by doing so. You commit no error by hiring nursing mothers, so long as you pay them equitably. You shall observe GOD, and know that GOD is Seer of everything you do.

Under what conditions can a woman divorce her husband.?

Whichever party chooses for divorce must obey the laws as aforesaid. Normally divorce is mutually decided by the couple. If the aforesaid laws are observed, there could be a situation where either of the spouse may not give their consent but if the arbitrators from both the families decide that divorce is the best solution for the estranged couple then they would, nevertheless go through divorce. The divorce laws are applicable to both man and woman (4:35 and 2:237 indicate this) except that there are certain additional laws which a divorced woman has to observe.

The following seem to be the only conditions where a believing women leaves her husband without observing the above laws. In fact, I think in this case even a formal divorce is not required under Quran. However if the law of the land requires a formal divorce then one must follow suit.

[60:10]  O you who believe, when believing women (ab

Answer 13

Yes, he can. No, you can't. You have many good answers here. The husband can divorce the wife just as you say (three separate times even if on same day or in one hour) and the wife can seek divorce through the Islamic judge. I see by your questions that you are seeking truth so I will add a couple things and give it to you as I want the best for everyone. There is a little more that no one has said. Islamic judge and courts are all men so divorce will always be in husbands favor if granted by husband or judge (can you imagine asking a court of men asking men witnesses to convict a man of rape when the penalty for a false accusation can be "very harsh"? ha ha). Is very hard to obtain a divorce over husbands wishes. Wife must pay back any money or property given for her to obtain divorce. Wife cannot move away with children under 7 and children go husband after they turn 7. In Saudi Arabia, Iran and most other countries the husband still retains the ex-wifes passport (women may not travel alone anyway without close male relative or at least special permission). This is to prevent her from running away with the children (also husband is still "responsible" for her actions until she remarries). Most women who have been divorced are not exactly in demand. So, for all these reasons...divorce is made undesirable in womans eyes. This is Islamic law and Shariah law (or at least supposed to be and the way it actually is no matter what anyone may tell you-I saw your other question HA HA). Be very careful when you marry and pick a good man if you are a Muslim woman as I believe you are. This is why I hate arranged marriage (mine was) as these women don't have a choice over what kind of husband they get (my wife just lucky I guess HA HA) and they have no more rights than otherwise. All in all, even as a man, I hate these laws as much as I loved my wife. If you are a Western woman then just stay in the West where at least the law and the courts overrule the Islamic courts and protect both. If nothing else then you can marry and live under Islam but if you have to you can at least divorce under secular law. In the East this is not possible. If your husband hits you in the West and you call the police they will arrest him and put a thing on him saying he can't come around you. If this happens in the East they will tell him he needs to keep you under better control. Good luck to you.

Answer 14

islam is made up by a man who didnt awant to see violence in his counrty ( muhham n mecca)  the cave hira? hah, convenitly he was by himself that day

Answer 15

No he can't.

If he repeats that 100 times it counts as one.

There must be number of witnesses.

He must not be in state of anger and fury.

He needs to go to court to petition for divorce.

He must meet his obligations.

Times have changed so the society and new rules apply.

Islam will not allow women to be so cheap.

Answer 16

yes he can do it even on the phone