Can my parents really do this to me? ?

Question

I'm not going to go into it, read my other questions if you want the background information but basically my mom and I don't get along, you could say it's my fault for not listening to her, getting in trouble in school, etc. but then you don't know my mom and how much she sucks.

basically after some drama last week about her not wanting me to be home alone anymore this summer despite the fact that I'm freakin 15, she and my dad apparently decided that I'm going to daycare for the next 3 weeks!

Our neighbor runs a home day care, the kids are all like 4-10 I think, anyways my mom told me that she talked to Marie, who is her friend and the woman who runs it, and that I'm going there on monday and I'm going to stay there all day every day until school starts, and that Marie is going to treat me exactly like one of the kids.

I will pretty much die if I actually have to go to a children's day care. I mean, I will seriously die.

I can't talk my mom out of it, because she was going to have my grandma stay with me but I totally burned that bridge by swearing at her...

what do I do????

Answer 1

I hate to tell you this, honey, but you'd probably get a lot less commotion between you and your mother if you would behave in school and listen to her.  I know we don't know her, but I can tell you that those problems are NOT her fault.  I hate to tell you this, but I think they're yours:(

Maybe your mom thinks you're a bit outta control?  Ask her to give you some time to prove your maturity, and then you can earn her trust a little bit.  You've messed up, and you should fix it.  Act your age.  Act 15.  If you had not mentioned your age I woulda said you were 12.  She obviously feels the need to treat you like a kid, and obviously thinks you act like one.  It all comes down to one word: behaving!  If you ask her to give you a while to do that, and PROMISE to change, maybe she'll reconsider.  I KNOW that you may feel to proud and angry to do this, but swallow your pride, kid.  It's the only way.  Your mother is right in this situation.  I know you don't want to hear that, but she is.

About Marie being "condescending", she is an adult, and you need to respect her.  It may sound REALLY old fashioned, but as long as she is not cruel or unkind, you have no reason to mistrust or dislike her.  

Just do what I have suggested with your mom.  Have a really grown up, mature conversation with her calmly without it resulting in yelling or tears, then she'll know you're as old as you say you are.

Answer 2

do a fake apology  i do that all the time try to act real about it, and be all nice to ur mom and idk y u cant stay home alone im gonna read ur other questions maybe they will tell me, do u have an ipod? mp3 player? bring that to the day care if u have to go. well i hope u dont have to go but if u do u wont die.

Answer 3

BEHAVE YOURSELF

Answer 4

I have read some of your other questions and in my opinion you have made your own bed.   When someone does not get along with lots of people not everyone else is the problem you are.  You are even a problem in school.    Yes they can do this and there is nothing you can do.  Personally even if you were a great child i would not of left you  home alone all summer at 15.  There is to much trouble you can get into.  You would of been in a day camp or something already.  Try to suck it up be nice bring some music and books and make the best of it till school starts.  

If you don't straighten up soon you will find your self in boot camp or juvenile hall.  

Answer 5

Would you be allowed to help in other ways like housework or yardwork?   Got a little story for ya.

When my son was 9 and 10, he spent 2 summers in a daycare with mostly preschool aged kids.   He couldn't relate to the younger kids.   Sometimes he would play video games but there was a time limit for that.    As a way to pass the time he would ask if he could help to set the table, vacuum, wash up the dishes, help clean up etc.   He didn't do all those chores in one day but he often asked for some way he could help and she would give him something to do.    He also ended up having a lot of discussions with the daycare provider on political issues and current events.   She was really into that and got him into it too.   I was blown away that he even cared about such things.  He got pretty close with the daycare provider and didn't mind going there.      Previous daycare providers only told him what to do and never had these friendly discussions but then again he didn't act mature like that before neither.    

My point is that if you want to be treated like you are older then act like you are older.    People do respond to that.    Seriously, no offense intended.

ETA:   BTW,  he wasn't always quite that helpful at home so if I told the day care provider of anything he did that was naughty she wouldn't believe me.    She thought of him as an angel even when I begged to differ on that one.     See how it works?    Act more responsible and mature then you'll get more respect.

Answer 6

Why complain?  You admitted that you brought this on yourself.  Parents don't WANT to not be able to trust their children.  I'm SURE that your mother wishes she had a more responsible 15 year old...but she doesn't.  So what is going to happen is you will go to daycare (try to keep it a secret from your friends), stay out of trouble, try to win your moms trust back, WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE WHEN TALKING TO ADULTS, and this too shall pass!  

P.S. Your mom ROCKS!!

Answer 7

Wow, thats lame.

Just don't listen to the woman. Take an ipod and sit and read somewhere or sit and listen to your iPod and text somewhere.

Whatever you do don't let this woman treat you like a child, thats really rude to do to you, no to mention a bytch a$$ move.

Like I said, take an iPod, a book and your cell phone. Sit somewhere and read and text or call friends. Wear shorts and a tank top and a towel and go lay outside and tan.

Answer 8

BEWARE --Frodo is NOT a family counselor or in a mother's group. She is a 14 yr. old girl who likes to exaggerate and play w/people's minds.   Look at her past postings.

I'd advise looking to others who are more mature and a young adult or someone you can trust talking to.    have you looked into family counseling maybe or talking to your school's guidance counselor once school starts.  good luck to you.  

Answer 9

You suck it up and deal with it. If you wouldn't have had the "drama" and fought and sworn at your mother you would probably be allowed to stay home. You s***w up and you take the consequences.

Answer 10

You go to daycare and no you want "die."

And we can't go back and read your other questions.  Your questions are private.

Edit:

I'm with Marie on you not proven yourself yet.  As a parent that sends my children to daycare, I would not feel comfortable sending my kids to daycare that has a 15 year old that needs daycare as a helper.

Answer 11

maybee you could talk to the person that runs the day care and it could be considered a "job" helping with the other kids. that way you could save face about having to be there.

ps, some day you will look back and either say "wow mom was right most of the time" or "i would take back all the things i said if i could"

your family is the most precious gift you have. please cherish them, because some day they won't be there.

Answer 12

Just suck it up and tell your mom you are sorry for yelling at her.

Answer 13

I hate to say this, but you are acting like a complete brat.  I have always respected my parents and in turn received their respect.  I have never once cursed at my parents or disrespected them (to a certain extent), and for that I'm allowed to stay home alone, go out as late as I want (I've come home before at 6 AM and they didn't care).  I showed myself as a responsible person and they therefore trust me.  You haven't shown yourself as a responsible person and they therefore don't trust you.  Like you said, it's not your moms fault, it's yours.

Answer 14

I was going to say that you're a bit too old to be in daycare, but then I read your comments about Marie and swearing at your mom.  I now have to agree that you are acting more like a young child than a 15 - year - old girl, so your parents are right.  Yes, they can do that to you until you are over 18 and out of your house.  Learn to speak more respectfully, and maybe people will start to taket you seriously.

Answer 15

Maybe if you would grow up, act right, and not swear at your elders you wouldn't have to go to daycare. You're acting like a baby, therefore you're being treated like a baby. I don't blame your mother one bit!

You're getting what you deserve.

Answer 16

Are you aware there are people currently facing the death of loved ones, cancer treatment that they don't know will even work, suicidal thoughts, loneliness, homelessness, hunger, domestic violence....and you are going to "die" cause your Mother is teaching you a lesson (which by the way means she cares enough about you and your wellbeing if shes willing to go to this length)

Put it in perspective please dear, ok?

Have a good day.