Can my teacher/coach say i am pretty and cute and smart?

Question

under any curciumstance as a teacher or a coach?

im a girl and 16.

is it just too boost my confidence ? why?

Or inappropriate? why?

You Decide, Thankyou.!

Answer 1

Smart=good.  Pretty, cute=not appropriate

Answer 2

If it's a girl, I suppose it's ok, still a little unusual though. :)

Answer 3

Depends...what is the situation that led up to these remarks.  Was he/she trying to boost your opinion/attitude of yourself?  Only you know.  As a former high school principal I would have to investigate this.  One other question...have either of your parents ever said this to you in a very serious tone.

My guess is the teacher/coach was trying to boost you up, unless he/she has made advances of some sort toward you.  Years ago that would be considered a compliment.

Answer 4

you can sue that coach as a child abuser or molester.... unless it is a girl..... but if it a girl make sure she is not L*****n

Answer 5

Of course they can say that...are you serious??  Have you considered that maybe they're telling the truth as they see it?  I'd have to question the "smart" part if you find fault with that statement...

Answer 6

if its a girl its fine but if its a guy totally werid its not a good thing he is hitting on you

Answer 7

I like mustard.

Answer 8

unless if ur coach is a girl..it's all fine..

but if your coach is a man...then nah, he's hitting on u.

he shouldn't put the words "pretty" and "cute" together with "smart"!

Answer 9

I don't think they could say you're cute unless they say something like oh that's a cute outfit or cute hair. Yes teachers can tell you you're smart. I like it when they tell me when I'm smart. I think that's a way to boost your confidence.

xoxo

-Blah

Answer 10

Depends on the conversation,  if you are lamenting the fact that everyone else thinks you're stupid and ugly.. it's a correct response....

if it comes out of the blue, with no peliminary, then no....

Answer 11

its perfectly fine if you ask me as long as they dont use the words s**y or other stronger sexual words i.e hot, banginn, etc.

Answer 12

Its inappropriate if its a man thats telling that your pretty.but if its a woman its for boosting confidence because they know what you are going though as a teenager.

Answer 13

umm... if they have only told you that once then I bet its just to boost your confidence.... but if they give you special attention and tell you that all the time and  like ya know are just weird around you then be scared..... lol

Answer 14

Assuming male to female.

It really depends on how it's said,  with what intention, and under what circumstance.

If you're not sure, then it's probably not good (because it weirds you out). If it's said in confidence and one on one, not good (even if the teacher's intentions were innocent). That's inappropriate.

If it's said with enthusiasm and in public, probably okay.

Answer 15

don't worry. he's probably just saying it like if ur neighbor says "aw, u r so cute"

that is probably it, but if it starts getting awkward and weird just let him know, and if u dont feel comfortable telling him that, tell someone u do feel comfortable telling, like ur mom:D

Answer 16

It all depends on the "Tone" of which it is given. I'll give 2 examples and situations, plus I'll assume a Male teacher/coach for both and that you are a Girl (If your a Boy, RUN!) as female Usually Don't have this for a problem.

Coach;

"Mary, you look a little Down. What's going on?"

Mary;

"Hi coach, I just don't feel like I'm worth anything."

Coach;

"Really Mary? I think your Pretty, and Smart and everyone says how Cute you are. Cheer up your just having a bad day. It will get better."

Real concern and trying too Boost you up.

Now the other side.

Coach;

"Gee Mary, you sure are looking Cute today!"

"I like that, Pretty and Smart and Cute."

Mary;

"Coach, your gross! I'm telling my_______!"

I hope this helps too clarify the situation your in.

Answer 17

If anything he does or says makes you feel uncomfortable, I would avoid that teacher and potentially tell your parents.

Answer 18

wow thats weird that is not ok for a coach or teacher to sya your CUTE

unless its a girl

Answer 19

it depends on what u said b 4 they said it!  and plus it depends if its a girl or boy

Answer 20

One must always consider the context for such situations.  If he did it in front of the class, and does it with everyone as a general rule, that's probably a habit he has... and he's probably just trying to be nice to everyone.  But if he said those things to you in private, and you've never heard him say anything like that to anyone else, it could mean that he's still a nice guy and does that to everyone in private, or it could mean something else... that's why I think I'd make a written record of what he said and when he said it.  Try to get the context of the conversation.  You should probably share this idea with your parents.  If you felt in any way uncomfortable, I'd listen very carefully to that feeling.  Feelings don't lie.

Answer 21

It really depends how he/she says it. If they're hitting on you, no way, that's not good but if it's being used as a confidence booster it's perfectly fine.

Answer 22

depends...was it a man teacher or a woman? and your relationship with the teacher. in my opinion if it was a woman that would be fine. But, if it was a man teacher i would think that was a wrong thing for a teacher/coach to say to his student.

Answer 23

tell someone eww

Answer 24

Depends on the situation. I had a student who told me straight up she had no self-confidence. I immediatly pointed out how great she was... I told her she was "smart, beautiful, athletic, and sweet" Now I would never randomly say that to a student, and I do not think a male student should say it "randomly" to a femail student. If you feel uncomfortable with it, then I believe it is inappropriate.