Can needy people suck you dry?

Question

And when you leave them - they don't even show they care one little bit - even though you know they are gutted that you've gone?

I aint wasting myself on people like that anymore

It really is thier loss - but God forbid that they actually admit it! lol

Answer 1

It's all about keeping a balance in your life. When you start to feel that someone is pulling you off balance, I mean from other friends, social activities etc. then it's time to pull back from that person. It's important to stop the pattern from happening early on. I know that's easy to see in hindsite, or for me to tell you. But I speak from my own experience, and a lot of reading.

Answer 2

Yes thats true. Its your loss and their gain.They soon find another benefactor.

Answer 3

I know don't give them money donate it to shelters they'll buy drugs and booze with it. They can work at mcdonalds

Answer 4

Yes.  They are called self-centered, self-serving people.  It seems to be a part of some temperaments (whether born that way or whether they get that way through the influences of environment).

For your protection, I advise you to learn to recognize them ahead of time or early on in a relationship or friendship.  With some it seems to be a neurotic need. With too many others it's a sort of game to manipulate others into serving them; and that's exactly what it's about. It's not really about help; it's about getting you to keep trying to help.  their mode is "to take."

Answer 5

if you let them, then yes they can !i

Answer 6

Only if you let them.

Answer 7

Well, look Chandra. I think there are many points to consider here...

Yes needy people can such you dry but you can have control over this behaviour. Since the start of the relationship clarify yourself, what you can do and what you can't. Don't promise you'll always be there for them but you will when you can for sure. (YOU CAN) is the keyword. What's you can't is the extra they need and you can't fulfill. Keep these in mind when helping others:

1-You may need help someday, nobody guarantees life.

2- Set your priorities, which has the right to consume more (1-God, 2-You, 3- Family, 4-People who need help)

sometimes you may switch number 2 and 4 in emergency cases but if it's your trend to always do it then that what makes it available for needy people to suck you dry.

Be cheerful when you help and if you can't try to take the cheerfulness from the power helping others give and if it didn't happen ask yourself why or if you're consuming yourself and need a break or to put more rules.

I think what you need now is a rest to feel less consumed. Then you'll continue life in  a better way. P.s: a person who is used to helping others never stops it even if he objects on the extra load sometimes.

Good luck in your life dear :)