Can she give her baby for adoption or to a family member?

Question

My Granddaughter is pregnant for the third time. She has borderline personality and says she can not keep the baby because of her problems.

She just separated from the baby's father who is a good person with a good family. He would want the baby . Her mother and I do too. My other son has been married for 17 year and has not kids, and would love to adopt him.

Can she give the baby for adoption without the father's consent?

This is a very painful question because I would like the baby to grow with her.

But even when I know she loves the baby, her mental problems are very difficult and if she has him she could abuse this baby.

She has no sense of responsability with her bills, is very violent and very difficult to deal with her.

Answer 1

No she needs the father to consent.  If he is good and has good family, let him raise child if he wants.  But do not let her.

Answer 2

No.  Fathers have rights too, his consent to adoption is needed.

I hope things work out for your family, god bless you for taking care of your own and not sending the child away to strangers

Answer 3

get the fathers blessing then go from there and you will need to prove your granddaughter is unfit to take care of a child.

Answer 4

It all depends on where she lives. In Arkansas if the father is married to the mother or his name is on the birth certificate both parents will have to sign the papers to put the child up for adoption. If she agrees to it you or another family member could adopt the child fairly easily.

Answer 5

I'm sure that this is a difficult and emotional time and situation for everyone in your family.  But, the child has a father.  The father has the right to raise his child.  This doesn't mean that you cannot have a relationship with your new great granddaughter, but it's not ethically right to circumvent the father and his rights.

Please consider that.  If the father wants to raise the child and your family doesn't stand in his way, do you have any real reason to believe that he would keep the child from you?  It doesn't sound that way. You've said he is a good man.  You all need to sit down and discuss the matter together, because this child has two parents and family on both sides.

Best to you,

Laurie

Answer 6

if you care to email me we have done a family adoption in my immediate family i would be happy to tell you what i can.

Answer 7

This page says that if the bio-dad is known, his consent is necessary to complete a legal adoption.

Can someone else in your family at least get custody of the child in the mean time?

Answer 8

If the father wants the child it should first be with him he has the right to raise his child. She does not have the right to give the child to someone else without his consent. If as you say he is a good man then why don't the family talk to him and allow him the chance to be a father. If he is a good man then he will do what is right in the raising of the child by allowing the mothers side to also be a factor in its life. At least she realizes that she is not what is in the child's best interest. good luck

Answer 9

If the father wants the baby then let him have him. If you are supportive of him, then he would have no reason to keep you from your grand child in the future.

Perhaps your granddaughter needs the birth control patch or an IUD.

Answer 10

She'll need his consent for an adoption to be legal and ethical.

I agree with others; the father should have the first option to raise his own child.  But this is a decision for your daughter and the father to make...together.

Answer 11

She cannot give the baby up without the fathers consent. Ask him for it. If he will give she can let a family member adopt her baby.

Answer 12

The baby's father would get first chance at having the child with him.  The only way an adoption could take place without his consent would be to have his parental rights severed.  That isn't an easy process and it sounds like that wouldn't happen since he's a nice guy.  The best thing to do is to have a family meeting with all the options written down and maybe find the scenario that is in the best interest of that child.  Maybe the father would opt to have another family member of the child have temporary guardianship until a more permanent situation can be put in place.  Adoption is so permanent.  If the father feels you or someone else is better able to care for the child right now, he just may agree to a guardianship situation.  Good luck to all of you!

Answer 13

Maybe you need to have your daughter declared mentally unfit, and become her legal guardian, and get her tubes tied.

The first person who should get the baby is the father.  If all the kids are his, he should get all of them if he can provide a stable life for them. You can still treat him like a son.  If you do, he'll be more likely to make sure you get grandma time with  them.

If he's unable to do that, all the kids should go to your son.