Can someone explain to me this feeling...?

Question

Well, I recently got divorced. I'm 23 yrs old and have a 4yr old and a 2 yr old. Since then I don't want to be away from them. I suffer a lot when they are with their daddy, which is 2 days a week. Sometimes I even avoid him so he won't take the children... Is this normal ?...

Answer 1

Hello

I can see you are very upset about letting your kids go

It will get much better trust me

think of it like they are just going to school or on holiday and they will be back in your arms befor you know it

Kind Regards

Oli Nash

Answer 2

The feeling is called being a concerned mother.

Answer 3

Yes it's normal, you obviously love your children as I do mine..."They are your whole world"... but keeping them from seeing their father is not only wrong, it's hurting them... unless he is truly abusive or not a good parent... Don't worry about them wanting to leave you and go to him, they will love you more for allowing them to be with him when they can... and when they grow up, they will recall how you were the rock in their lives, and that you never kept them from seeing their Daddy, even though things didn't work out between you two...

Good Luck, and know that your doing the right thing... Peace

Answer 4

It's normal to feel that way, but it's not nice... Just imagine yourself in his shoes... He might have been an unworthy husband, but kids need the father.

Answer 5

Its hard but its really important that they see their dad, and its important for you to get a break.

Try to get into a hobby and get out of the house while they are gone. In time it will get easier.

Answer 6

Ofcourse it is normal. U gave birth to the child. It is urs and ur hubby's , so both of u wud wish to c him. Let him c as well.

Mothers are lil more curious always coz they give borth, a different feeling !

dats y it is said.-' paradise lies in d feet of mothers' !

Answer 7

Yes this is normal, your kids are your whole world right now, and you dont want to share them, especially with someone who you have had relationship problems. BUT, you have to face the fact that they need their Dad in their life, and you would be wrong to try to keep them from him, its so easy to use the kids as a weapon to hurt him , just like he hurt you... dont fall into that trap. it just makes you the bad guy..... Use those 2 days a week for Mommy time, time to relax, clean the house, plan spmething special for yourself and even plan something special for you and the kids to do together... use those two "free" days to begin your new life... Be the best Mom you can be, but in order to do that you have to be the best YOU you can be... Realize what a special person you are, and make the most of it... Good luck, and stay strong