Can someone give me some advice.i feel com-plenty emotionally drained at the moment .iI am 46 ?

Question

I have to deal with problems caused by other people in my life and in my working i am working with people with problems and having to help them with and its draining me .I don,t have ant support of any body a I.i cannot handle problems or stress at the moment and i am fed up of people trying to cause me trouble and problems and refusing when i ask for help like my employer refusing to give me full time work can some one help me live a happier life any advice

Answer 1

I'm ready to listen, you can write to me:

[e-mail]

Or else take the following 4 steps:

1. just try to distract yourself. One great thing I've learned being a teacher: DON'T LET IT COME TO YOU! Whenever there's someone/something causing ditress, I just imagine there's a screen in front of me, and I allow nothing to disturb me, be it my director or my colleages, or my students. Life is too short to be distressed. Do your thing, -- go hiking, do some exercise, read a favourite book you've never managed to get off the shelf...

2. Watch "Amelie"

3. Try to help someone as she did.

4. Pray, God's there to always listen:)

Jesus bless you!:)

Answer 2

You have my support, in that I too found work, family life, everything a bit much to cope with about ten years ago.

I am over it by just saying to myself "balls" I am not going under with this.

I am now a happy chappy.

Can be done, so positive thinking & all that !

Bob

Answer 3

have an affair, i'm available

why all the thumbs down? I'm more fun than church!

Answer 4

1) find a part time job to make up to full time hours

2) go to museums and for walks at the weekend

3) join a gym

4) go to church occasionally and recharge your batteries

Answer 5

Strangely, the way things are around us, are purely dependent on the way we look at them.

You need to change the way you look at things.

If you got caught out in the rain, you could decide to be angry at getting soaking wet and the rain would be a bad thing.

Or - you could enjoy the feeling of the rain on your face and magnificance and wonder of rain drops, and be in awe at all the wonderful things that water does for us.

For example - If someone lost their job, they can think "it is the end of the world for me". Or they can look at it another way. They can think "what a wonderful opportunity I now have to find a better job, one that I love and more money".

If someone doesn't "like you", you can think "woe is me, I'm very unpopular without any friends". Or you can think "thank you my friend for showing me that I need to love myself more, so that you can love me".

Being happy is all about how we see things, and things will then be just the way we want them.

“What you are thinking and feeling

and what you are getting is always a perfect match”.

We create everything absolutely around us.

The power is in your hands - not in others.

peacefromken

Answer 6

Join a church. you can meet people. socialize. and he would work wonders. but you gotta trust him. ....... ask and you shall receive

Answer 7

It sounds like you are going through a lot of emotional turmoil. Maybe see a psychologist and get a grip on your emotions. I am 45 and have been there. Therapy can work. I also believe that a job change would be great for you, especially at this point. You want full time hours dealing with other peoples' problems....I think not. You need to address your own issues in able to be effective in the work place.  

peacefro..excellent answer.

Feel free to email me.

Answer 8

quit the job and go on holiday forever

Answer 9

find someone you can talk to example people you dont know.to be transparent you need to open up,to open up you need to be the real you.try me, i am willing and i have gone through what you went through on top of it i have GOD.

Answer 10

Get a gym membership, like $60/month at Golds.  Get a personal trainer.  Do a lot of aerobic activities, especially run until you get to 5 miles.  You'll lose a lot of weight, meet happy positive people, and they'll cheer you up.

Serotonin is released by the brain when you do lengthy aerobic exercise.  Serotonin makes the brain happy.  Dopamine is released when we are stressed without an aerobic outlet that leads to depression, anger, unhappiness.

Answer 11

look at what you have and not what is wrong.

i lost my job and tooth (pain full)  didn't get my planning permission and have no money for my hols all in one week and it's only friday.

but i have my family and my boyfriend.

p.s have to sell my new car mg 1.8 cause can't afford to keep ot now.

it's hard when people won't listen or help you but just keep thinkin about what you have and they don't. good luck

Answer 12

Have you tried sitting outside, closing your eyes and focusing on your breathing, just staying there for a while? I know what your talking about. Try to make some time for yourself when you can relax, sounds like your overworked.  

Answer 13

sounds like you need a vacation, and a funny movie

Answer 14

You need time out for yourself. Time to relax and think of all the good things that are around you, and the so called bad ones, try to see them in a more constructive way.

Also you might be giving the wrong impression to your employer by being so stressed.  Show them you can cope with the work emotionally first, then tell them that you can't cope financially with part time money, if they are good employers, the chances are they will increase your hours.

Good luck