Can someone give me some good advice on how to do this?

Question

My sister in law is 34 years old and not yet married. She is absolutely beautiful, a devout Muslimah, educated and employed. I asked my husband the other day why she wasn't married and he said no one had asked about her. Well I don't think the family should be waiting until someone asks about her, I think they should be looking for a husband for her. The problem is that they don't know anyone except my husband's friends and none of them are good enough for her in my opinion because they are not devout Muslims. I don't think she would ever go on one of those Muslims marriage sites, although I don't find anything wrong with them. What suggestions can I make to my husband to help find her a husband? I want her to experience the same kind of love that I have found.

Answer 1

COOKIE POWER

Answer 2

I guess she should go out and be seen then.  I don't mean in a bad way.  She can go out and do halal activities in places that other Muslims are, for example she can go volunteer her time as charity to a place where many Muslims are.  Other Muslims will then be aware of her.  If she befriends some Muslimahs that way, they can kind of 'spread the word' that she's looking for a suitor and hopefully the opportunity will come for her.

Answer 3

well, since your husbands has many Muslim friends, he can help her with a good husband!! or you have to contact to the nearest masque!! sometime the Imams knows good unmarried Muslim men!! and the best thing is she has to do it by her own, since she is 34!!

she needs to ask good people for proposal!!

Answer 4

The best thing to do would be to go to the local masjid and try to spread the word that you/your husband/the family is looking for a devout Muslim man for your sister-in-law. Inshallah she will find someone. =)  

Answer 5

Your family should take initiative to join ISNA Matrimonial Link, give information about her in their publications,  Insha Allah some one will approach for her and she can get married.  They assign a large room in annual national cnvention and regional conventions for families to meet  each other and introduce men and women who need life partners and give them opportunity to get to know each other by personal interviews in that room or going out together for lunch and dinners.  Lolts of marriages are taking place through ISNA facilities.

Answer 6

going out but with a Mahram.

Answer 7

Thats good that you have good intentions and God will bless you for that!

Inshallah she'll find some one the thing is that, has to happen on the right time!

I am sorry I can't help you with this, I have no suggestions cause in most of Muslims countries people don't go to ask for a boy, though no obligation in that for Muslims in Islam.

pray for her!

Inshallah I'll do too!

Answer 8

they may not be directly looking for her, but believe me they are always on the look out for her, because that's the way things work in the middle east.  And if she is religious, I am sorry to say that shrinks the pool of possibilities.  Believe me they want her to get married because in Arab society so called "spinsters" are pitied but at the same time they do not want her to marry just anyone.  And the bottom line is it's her decision to make.  Inshallah she will will find a good and decent man.  I wish her the best.  

Answer 9

aw alhamdulila u have found ur man...

isnt theere a way to go to the mosque and ask the imam if he knows of any men or something?? i mean i dnt know but maybe people go to the imam and say i need a wife or sommething so he can keep an eye open in someone that may be interested if u get me

but if there is absolutley no way in that or any other method then i think maybe marriage sites are best. i know of someone who found his wife online and now they are married and have 2 kids

maybe she doesnt like the sites becuase she's scared. why dont u dont u sit together so that you can  help her decide things when the offers come in :) and if something happens and she meets someone then u can go along with her to meet the guy just to be on the safe side becuase unfortunatley there are some creeps on the web :O

hope this helps

jazakh Allah khair

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Answer 10

According to a hidith of prophet Muhammad every marrige is based on wealth,beauty,or iman and you sister has two of them and may be the third , so it is easy to marry her to muslims ,may be there are so many muslims wanted her but your parents refused or she doesn't like,you said that she is working in law so she has so many girlfriends and they can find her a muslim , the problem maty be personal , try to understand her .  

Answer 11

Well u have pretty good ideas, i say u follow them.....