Can someone help me out regarding funeral/wake?

Question

My boss' father passed away - they are from India. He told us that the viewing and cremation will take place tomorrow at a local cemetery here in our area. I was unable to ask him some questions so me and my officemates are clueless on what to expect tomorrow. I know his dad is very traditional (Hindu). We don't know if we can wear white and/or black? Are we suppose to buy flowers? We don't have any idea so please help! Thanks!

Answer 1

I'm sure that they realize that you are not "in tune" with the Hindu funeral & wake procedures.  

I would say it would be safer for you to go like you would a normal funeral.  It would be better than going all Hindu - like and have it be an American funeral.

I would just follow the "when in Rome" rule.  It's not being insensitive if your boss did not specify any kind of conduct or dress code rule.  

Don't bring flowers.  Offer condolences, and that's it.  

Worst case scenario:  You go, it's a Hindu funeral, and you and your American coworkers look American.  People will understand that it's just a different culture.  You live here, so do they, and it's better than you not going at all.

Good luck....

& don't worry so much.  It'll be fine.    

Answer 2

wear what you would normally wear to a funeral- don't treat someone different because they are of a different religion.

Answer 3

Unless he specifically told you the Hindu funeral procedures and attire, I would say that you should go the way that you always dress for a funeral.     People get too many flowers for funerals and have nothing to do with them afterwards, I would not do the flower route.

Answer 4

I am Hindu: Wear white...and just skip on the flowers..