Can someone help with my maid of honor duties?

Question

i'm the maid of honor at my best friends wedding in october and i have to give a speech. only prob is i have anxiety for badly. does anyone have any good ideas for short toast for a wedding and i can maybe twist into my own? also do i give a speech at the bridal shower?

Answer 1

No - you do not have to give a speech at the bridal shower.

As for the toast at the wedding - why don't you just recall a story of a funny or heartfelt time that you had with your friend. Then say that you are so glad that she found (fiance's name) and you know they will be very happy together. Wish them a lifetime of happiness and say cheers.

Don't worry - it doesn't have to be long. Just make it heartfelt and it will be beautiful.  

Answer 2

Hi, at my first speech as MOH I was also very nervous. What I did was I shared my speech with the Best Man, so we both told a funny story about the couple. It was so much better to be with someone else because you'll be less worry about the audience because you can just give the speech by looking at the best man and the couple. Good luck!

Answer 3

I was the MOH in my best friend's wedding a few months ago. I get terribly nervous speaking in front of people, and she had about 300 guests there.

Keep it short and from the heart. tell a short story about your relationship with both the bride and groom (remember, you're toasting both of them).

In mine, I touched on knowing the bride since middle school, and made fun of myself for being a little over protective of her when she first started dating the groom. Then I went into how, after awhile, i started referring to him as "my friend" instead of "her boyfriend", and I ended by saying "it's truly and amazing thing to be able to say that two of my best friends are officially starting their life together." Of course, this may not apply to your situation depending on your relationship with him.

Just make sure you write it out and have it with you in case you forget once you get up there. And say it over and over so that you are comfortable with what you're saying. That also helped me because at first, I couldn't get half way through without crying. But once I said it enough, I got immune and didn't get so emotional.

Also, don't have more than one drink before you get up to do it. You don't want to be sloppy!

Good luck!