Can someone please explain to me why this happened?

Question

Awhile ago I liked this guy who was in my class. I know that teenage girls can be dramatic, but I can honestly say that I'd never felt that way about a guy before, and I've certainly never let one make me cry.

I liked him for months and never told him, when I finally worked up the courage to tell him, he skipped around it for a couple of days and then told me that he didn't like me back. For his sake I pretended to be over it. Even though I cried (in private) after he told me. Unlike most girls my age (I'm 17) I know that you can't force a guy to like you if he doesn't. So I let it go.

The next year I switched schools and I didn't see him for a long time but we still talked on Facebook and MSN. So fast forward a couple of months and we haven't talked in awhile so I go to write something on his wall, but he deleted me.

When I asked him why he said that and I quote " We barely talk anymore and there is no reason for us to. "

Ouch.

I don't think I like him anymore, but it still hurts me that the first guy I ever really trusted would just ditch me like that. And the fact that we were friends made it hurt even more than if we'd been dating.

Sorry to make it so long but why would he do that?

Answer 1

Because he's not worth your time.

He just showed it to you in a much less subtle way than you having to dig deep to figure that out.

Answer 2

You need to build up your own self esteem/worth and get above/beyond NEEDING approval/validation/LOVE, etc. from unreliable USERS.  

google self esteem tips

and get started being your own best friend, supporter, source of good feelings, etc. and not so DEPENDENT on a**holes like him.

When you have healthy self esteem/respect, you will attract guys with the same qualities as you have acquired.

Answer 3

I can't say WHY he did that, but I CAN say he sounds like a shallow, uncaring jerk that you are definitely better off without.  

He's not a real friend; a real friend would never treat you that way.

Move on. You sound like you deserve much better.

Best of luck. :)  

Answer 4

Either he is afraid or thinks you're a creep (sorry to be harsh) but thats how boys are. they push everyone away

Answer 5

For some reason he felt threatened by your affection. Perhaps he is afraid of love? Maybe no one has cared for him before and he is afraid of what it might be like. Strange to say, I know, but for some reason it comes to mind.

Answer 6

well this sucks but i can sorta understand... i had feelings for my friend and well i pretended as if i didnt and all i wanted from him was friendship... and he confused to me that he hates it when girls started to tell he they like him... they looked to desperate and that was not pretty... so i never dared to ask him out... and i guess he found out by a friend and well he drift away from me... we hardly talk and well when i send him comments on myspace is rare when he answers

Answer 7

Well, people all feel differently.

I think that avoiding him wasn't a really good idea. Yes, you can get over your pain but it sends something like a wrong impression on the other.

He may have had felt your friendships between each other fading away so he wanted a nice clean break. I honestly can't give you the best explanation possible but I think that moving away and all wasn't really the best idea.

And... people are all different, after all.

Answer 8

what a jerk, that's all i have to say.

Answer 9

Hun, your first indication that he was a sketchy figure was when he skipped around it for a couple of days. An honest guy would have straight out told you "Hey, can we just be friends?". He was toying with you, and being a 17 year old myself it's pretty tough to realize that when you like someone like that, they're not who you think they are. So many jerky guys i've told I liked (or was super obvious about it) always said they didn't like me or just stopped talking to me or even went so far as to ask for a booty call instead. Girl, there are some super messed up guys out there, haha. It's high school.

That he deleted you off his facebook? It just shows that he was toying with you all along. He liked the attention you gave him until he moved onto someone else. It's hard to take rejection (i know, trust me, haha), but the ones that hurt you like that weren't right for you in the beginning.

Personally I have a boyfriend that I love and care about beyond anything, but I still see guys I had interests in before that rejected me or whatever and it hurts pretty bad still. Its like you kind of fall apart after the fact and you patch yourself up, but you still have those cracks. Best of luck, hun. I hope you find someone special that treats you how you deserve!

Answer 10

He did it because he doesn't like you the same way you like him. You have to get past it and move on. Don't dwell on it

Answer 11

My dear, it sounds cruel, but first it is infatuation, and then on his part - immaturity.  It takes time to grow out of these things and to become adults.  There are many hurts along the way.  And we get more experienced or stronger with every one.  We would be lesser people if not tested.

Answer 12

he doesn't like you. let urself go...forget the past move on to the future