Can someone please help me!! i am so scared right now!

Question

i am terrified for me friends life.she is too overwhelmed with everything and shes only 13!!!!!!! she has to be the mother for her family and she doesn't know how to say no!!!!!! please i need advice! can anyone tell me what i can do to save my best friend before its too late? please i am begging you, i am really scared. she's been cutting herself and drinking and doing drugs, and who knows what next! prostitution! i don't know! but i want to save her before things get WAAAYY over board!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE! I CAN NOT EMPHASIZE HOW SERIOUS THIS IS TO ME!

Answer 1

i think that she needs to get away from the stress for a day

have her spend the night or something, and go out with her and do things that only teenagers would do. she needs a day to remind herself how to have fun, and get away from responsiblity

even do something a little bit more rekless to get her out of that frame of mind, reckless but not dangerous

she might need help though around her house

try to be there when she wants to talk, and emphaize that u want to help

Answer 2

you may need to talk with a counselor at her school to let them know what is going on...or even a pastor. they will know the right avenues to take to see what would be best for her

please tell her not to do that...that she is loved and things will always get better.

please let her know that you are there for her and care for  

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your friend

but in the midst of her life, you are being sucked in

i know you care for her and i realize how much she means to you, but you cant make her decisions. You can sure help her along the way though. Try teaching her the word of God, take her to church with you once in a while, tell her about people around the world who have it worse than her, no matter how hard it is for her to believe. Try to convince her to count her blessings, like her house, her cell phone, she has a father and a mother who love her, she has a caring friend like you. And tell her that cutting herself and drinking isnt going to make her life better, it is only turning her into a bad person, when you know deep down that she isnt. and if you cant do anything to help her, than you MUST STAY AWAY FROM HER.  i know she is important to you, but she will manipulate you to do all the work for her and u in the end, will end up JUST LIKE HER. you will be miserable and do all these bad things. I know right now it is hard to turn away, but if you cant help her,   you just cant help her, and you must accept that fact and start to live your life. Take it as a lesson, that you cant let your life turn into something like that. from the sounds of things u are a very caring, loving, and productive person, why ruin all of that for something that cant be fixed. Do everything you can to help her, but if you cant, you just cant. God bless you

Answer 4

If you truely feel like she is in trouble then sit down with an adult you trust and tell them what is going on then together you need to call childrens protective services.  I did it for a friend of mine when I found out she was being raped by her dad and even though she was mad at me for a little while she got over it and thanks me for it now because I helped her get out of that situation.  But be sure you have your facts straight because you dont want to make a false accusation.

Answer 5

First.  calm down.  I know it's hard because you're scared, but if your friend sees how worried you are, things will get worse.

Second.  if there is anyone YOU can talk to, talk to them.  It doesn't have to be a psychiatrist or the police, but for your own piece of mind, find someone you trust who is detached from the situation and vent to them.  it will help you calm down.

Third.  if possible, go into your friends house and remove anything she may use to hurt herself.  Take the drugs, take the alcohol, and turn them into the police.  You don't have to say where you got them, just tell them you found them.  Take ANY sharp objects, we're talking razors, scissors, aluminum foil, the works, and get it out of her home.  Empty out the medicine cabinet.  baby proof her house.

Fourth.  If you think she will try to end her life, you need to call the police or a doctor.  I know, it will feel like betrayal, but it isn't.  NOT telling would be the only betrayal.

I know you're terrified.  I've been there.  But don't keep this to yourself, I implore you.  I told you to tell someone LAST because I know it's hard to tell anyone about something so horrible, but if you're as afraid as you say you are, then your friend NEEDS you to tell.  She doesn't have to be the mother in her home, she doesn't have to suffer the way she suffers.  And you can help her by calling the police or a doctor.  Trust me, it's better to see your friend taken away to a clinic than to see her taken away to a morgue.  That may be grotesque and intense, but you're in an intense situation.

Lastly.  don't ever let your friend forget how much you love her.

Answer 6

You want to help your friend who is in distress. It is good. If you are a that humane then you try to give her succor on you own moral, intellectual and spiritual strength or do some prayer on her behalf. I consider that one is the best judge of one's own sufferings. Nobody else can narrate the suffering of others.

Answer 7

school counselor or if shes christian have a pastor talk to her, and pray for her if your a christian

Answer 8

You need to make her call a crisis center with you by her side

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Answer 9

cps and therapy

Answer 10

hun there is only so much that people can do through yahoo answers. when i was in middle school my friend was cutting and drinking and doing drugs too. it has only gotten worse. you need to get an adults help (school counselor, pastor) NOW!!! its very important you HAVE TO talk to an adult who can and will get your friend help. and let her know that you are doing this because you are a good friend and care about her so much.

Good Luck.  

Answer 11

Talk to a counselor at your school and let them get her some help.

Answer 12

Call your local child services to report child abuse.  

Answer 13

1. talk to her

2. shes not going to do prostitution come on

3. start talking to her about her home your her friends help her