Can someone pls help me?

Question

i am 22 and living with my boyfriend. i had a job but it wasnt permenant so i have been out of work for the last couple of months. i feel so useless and frustrated. useless because he works hard but never has much money. when i was working i used to help him out from time to time. im frustrated cos we both live in a single room so i am in 1 room all day and the person we live with is a drunk so i cant talk to him for company. i cant go out either because of no money. i need money for transport and all my friends live too far away to see them often. lately he has been ignoring me. like today, a sunday he has hardly even looked at me and has decided to spend today doing anything apart from spend time with me. we NEVER do anything together. i didnt even know this was strange for couples until recently.

i feel like i need to get my own money and live on my own but i have tried so hard but to no avail. i dont even get called in for interviews so its like i have no chance. im starting a college course in septemeber but i feel so depressed and frustrated that i cant focus on anything

ive been smoking weed to forget about it all and sometimes it works but when i dont smoke it gets really bad. im forced to think about my life and i really hate it. i feel so trapped and so poor

my mum stopped talking to me last year over not living with her and the family so i have no support there. i feel so alone. does anybody have advice. i cant live like this. it even physically hurts in my guts. i cant stop crying

Answer 1

hiya you are both in a bad way,you will have to take any job to make ends meet you could work as a cleaner,in a pub,even if its not what you want,it will do till some think better comes along.you will be distant with your man,he will be feeling bored no money fed up.and thinking you are not pulling your weight.so find work,it want jump out at you.but if you go into town and look in shop windows to see if they need any workers.you will get some think,not what you want, but its work and money.then you can both start enjoying life again. good luck.x

Answer 2

i think you should get in contact with your family .i am sure you will be met with open arms.i don't think your bf deserves you.go back home

Answer 3

Hun, I would try and talk to your Mum. I know it will be hard, but it seems that she could give you some support to help you start again.

Quit the weed, it does nothing for you and the money that you are spending on it you could put to good use!

Going to college is a great thing, and you should throw yourself into it as much as you can.

I would talk to your GP for help in getting away from your addictions and your depression.

I would also go to your citizen advice bureau  as i am sure that you can get support to move out on your own and help produce a great future for yourself.

As for your boyfriend, I don't think you should worry about him, until you start looking after yourself.

Try:

http://www.talktofrank.com

http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/fami...

Answer 4

You can afford the weed then?

Answer 5

If you rarely talk you are hardly a couple.

if you are so poor how can you afford weed? (the use is your choice but do not plead poverty whilst spending on such things)

Suggest if you want things to work you go to Relate together.

If you don't, then move on.

Maybe seek treatment for your addiction, too.

I wish you well.

Answer 6

sounds like self entrapment i mean why put yourself in a state of worry over every thing ,,take one step at atime like clean up your act its been 2months then do anything for cash ,,bar work ,waitring ..hotel staff work finish collage and keep working that must be your main goal            ,,,.....so stop worrying about your love life and start getting the cash in ,it will be a huge moral booster..