Can someone tell me when you have kids the father is never there for them.?

Question

My bd do not do nothing for his daughter but if you kiss his but and give him some he may do something. But when she was born he was not there with me to hold my hand he was always at work and when i ask him to take off he told me no you can do it by myself and then i felt all alone like he did not love me no more and i fill so dum and i called him and told him i was having his baby he said to me you can have it yourself and it been wrong ever sense then will someone help me please i am single now and he still call me and come by maybe to say hi and im a fool for letting him come like a dum a--?

Answer 1

I have a child by a man that I is not my husband and never again will I do that! It is an unnatural situation that is a feeding ground for conflict. DO NOT kiss that man's butt so that he will do right. Let child support enforcement see to it that you get the finances needed to help support the child. Do NOT have sexual contact with him. You two have a child together and that is it. He is not your man. He doesn't even respect you so why would you let him further disrespect you by using you? Allow him to see his child and make it clear that you will have not contact with him other than discussions regarding your child. Allow him to come pick his child up from a neutral location, not at your house until you learn how not to give in to sexual advances. If you do let him pick the child up from your house...do NOT let him in. He has to know that you mean business. Trust me...it will work, my son's father knows that I do NOT play that. We have a child together that's it!

Answer 2

When it comes to the child you are not a dumb---!! Let him be in the child's life whatever he has to give, as far as you and him I wouldn't go there. Make it clear to him he can see his daughter but not really spend time with you. I don't know how old you are and it doesn't matter but it sounds like he just didn't know how to handle the emotions of being a father. Think of you and your daughter!!! Have you gone for child support??

Answer 3

Yes, u are a fool if u allow yourself to be used.  Your top priority should be your child, then yourself...if you keep taking him back you aren't taking care of yourself.  A good parent does what they have to do and they have no time for the nonsense  of others...even if it is the other parent.

Answer 4

You are a fool for letting him use you. The only reason you should allow him around is to see his child and that is it not getting anything from you. You have a daughter now and if she grows up seeing you let men use you even her father she will think that it is okay. You need to ask yourself if this is the example you want to set for her, if this is how you want her life to be. She will follow what you do and you need to remember that and put her needs before anyone elses even yours.