Can someone tell me word for word what the minister and the bride and groom say on wedding day at the church?

Question

Can someone tell me word for word what the minister and the bride and groom say on wedding day at the church? Does anybody know

Answer 1

It really all depends on your vows.  Some parts of the vows you will need to repeat after the minister, or say "I will", or "I do".  

Have you spoke to your minister to see what he/she has in mind for your wedding day?

Best wishes to you.

Answer 2

For starters, Roman Catholic clergy are not referred to as ministers; they are priests.  Any link to vows that anyone gives you in which the officiant is called "minister" will not be the text to a Catholic wedding, and therefore, not an answer to your question no matter how lengthy or detailed.

Even in the very traditional, liturgically-specific Catholic church, there are some variations and some room for personalization.  Essentially, it's relevant whether this is a High Mass service or a Low Mass service; whether it's during Eucharist or not.

I think you'll find some useful information here.

http://www.catholic-wedding.info/program...

Addition:

I just read all the very well-intentioned answers on this page.  Is there not a person who answered here who knows a thing about the Catholic church?  Nobody seems to realize that there's a service involved in this process.

Look, I'm an Episcopalian, a form of Protestant that is incredibly close to Catholicism, and we have something called "The Book of Common Prayer" that gives the text of services for all occasions.  I would type out the wedding service for you but we're moving and my BCP is in a box.  I am almost certain that the BCP is online and using Google, you can find it and look up the liturgy for weddings.  Our liturgy is not identical, but it's close enough that I can go to mass in a Catholic Church and spend very little time being lost.

Answer 3

Contact your local parish priest.  He can give you a booklet that explains the entire ceremony.

Answer 4

The minister marrying us basically printed out the script of everything he'd say and what he'd ask us to say so we could make changes.  We decided to write our own vows.

But every denomination and even every minister probably does it a little differently.

Answer 5

its different from faith to faith and couple to couple!

Answer 6

There's also copyright issues here, so even if we knew you were using the standard ______ service we probably wouldn't be able to help.

Answer 7

There's no one thing that they all say....the bride and groom can completely write their own ceremony.  There might be things that have to be declared, depending on the state, which the minister will insist be included, such as the "is there any reason why these two should not be married" and the minister declaring the bride and groom to be married, and the almighty "I do".  There are several websites that give many formats that you might want to follow, along with some wording suggestions for vows, etc.  The Knot has a good website on several formats that are commonly used.  Vows can be written by the bride and groom or come from the Book of Common Prayers that are traditionally used in various religions (each religion and denomination very likely has its own).

Answer 8

Well... there are many variations to wedding vows.. some of them include:

1.I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

2.I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

3.Name), I take you to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife). Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live. I take you with all your faults and your strengths as I offer myself to you with my faults and strengths. I will help you when you need help, and I will turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.

4.I, (name), take you, (name), to be my beloved (wife/husband), to have and to hold you, to honor you, to treasure you, to be at your side in sorrow and in joy, in the good times, and in the bad, and to love and cherish you always. I promise you this from my heart, for all the days of my life.

Those are some of the ones I know to be quite common. Hope that helps!

Answer 9

I doubt anyone could tell you all the possibilities. With all the different religious options and then the different sets of vows and the vows written by the bride and groom you can only imagine all the options.

Answer 10

The only person who can tell you that is your wedding officiant!

Answer 11

No.  Because wedding vows are different depending on where you go.

There are 'canned' words that are commonly used, depending on the church.

If you Google "wedding vows", you'll get samples like this:

http://www.myweddingvows.com/

http://weddings.about.com/cs/bridesandgr...

Answer 12

MINISTER:

Dearly Beloved, we are gathered together here in the sign of God – and in the face of this company – to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is commended to be honorable among all men; and therefore – is not by any – to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly – but reverently, discreetly, advisedly and solemnly. Into this holy estate these two persons present now come to be joined. If any person can show just cause why they may not be joined together – let them speak now or forever hold their peace.

Marriage is the union of husband and wife in heart, body and mind. It is intended for their mutual joy – and for the help and comfort given on another in prosperity and adversity. But more importantly – it is a means through which a stable and loving environment may be attained.

Through marriage, GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME make a commitment together to face their disappointments – embrace their dreams – realize their hopes – and accept each other’s failures. GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME will promise one another to aspire to these ideals throughout their lives together – through mutual understanding – openness – and sensitivity to each other.

We are here today – before God – because marriage is one of His most sacred wishes – to witness the joining in marriage of GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME. This occasion marks the celebration of love and commitment with which this man and this woman begin their life together. And now – through me – He joins you together in one of the holiest bonds.

Who gives this woman in marriage to this man?

BRIDE’S FATHER OR ESCORT:

Her family and friends gathered here today do.

MINISTER:

This is a beginning and a continuation of their growth as individuals. With mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge comes the affirmation of each one’s own life happiness, growth and freedom. With respect for individual boundaries comes the freedom to love unconditionally. Within the emotional safety of a loving relationship – the knowledge self-offered one another becomes the fertile soil for continued growth. With care and responsibility towards self and one another comes the potential for full and happy lives.

By gathering together all the wishes of happiness and our fondest hopes for GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME from all present here, we assure them that our hearts are in tune with theirs. These moments are so meaningful to all of us, for “what greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together – to strengthen each other in all labor – to minister to each other in all sorrow – to share with each other in all gladness.

This relationship stands for love, loyalty, honesty and trust, but most of all for friendship. Before they knew love, they were friends, and it was from this seed of friendship that is their destiny. Do not think that you can direct the course of love – for love, if it finds you worthy, shall direct you.

Marriage is an act of faith and a personal commitment as well as a moral and physical union between two people. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist between them. It is the construction of their love and trust into a single growing energy of spiritual life. It is amoral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention. Marriage should be a life long consecration of the ideal of loving kindness – backed with the will to make it last.

Exchange of Vows

MINISTER TO GROOM:

Do you GROOM'S NAME take BRIDE'S NAME to be your wife – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live?

GROOM:

I will.

MINISTER TO BRIDE:

Do you BRIDE'S NAME) take GROOM'S NAME to be your husband – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon him your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him as long as you both shall live?

BRIDE:

I will.

Exchange of Wedding Rings

MINISTER:

What token of your love do you offer? Would you place the ring(s) in my hand?

May this/these ring(s) be blessed as the symbol of this affectionate unity. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go – may they always return to one another. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women year. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home which they establish together be such a place that many will find there a friend. May this/these ring(s) on her/their finger(s) symbolize the touch of the spirit of love in their hearts.

Handing ring to the Groom

MINISTER TO GROOM:

GROOM'S NAME, in placing this ring on BRIDE'S NAME finger, repeat after me: BRIDE'S NAME), you are now consecrated to me as my wife from this day forward and I give you this ring as the pledge of my love and as the symbol of our unity and with this ring, I thee wed.

Handing ring to the Bride

MINISTER TO BRIDE:

BRIDE'S NAME, in placing this ring on GROOM'S NAME finger, repeat after me: GROOM'S NAME, you are now consecrate to me as my husband from this day forward and I give you this ring as the pledge of my love and as the symbol of our unity and with this ring, I thee wed.

Pronouncement

MINISTER:

May you always share with each other the gifts of love – be one in heart and in mind – may you always create a home together that puts in your hearts – love – generosity and kindness.

In as much as GROOM'S NAME and BRIDE'S NAME have consented together in marriage before this company of friends and family and have pledged their faith – and declared their unity by giving and receiving a ring – are now joined.

You have pronounced yourselves husband and wife but remember to always be each other’s best friend.

What – therefore – God has joined together – let no man put asunder.

And so, by the power vested in me by the State of ______ and Almighty God, I now pronounce you man and wife – and may your days be good and long upon the earth.

You may now kiss the bride.

Answer 13

it all depends on what the bride and groom have instructed the minister to say.  there are plenty of different ways that a minister can officiate the wedding.  if you want to know the different ways, ask a minister, who can give you a packet of different sayings.