Can teachers tell when a student has a crush on them???URGENT HELP NEEDED?

Question

I know this is insane and I've tried to forget about my teacher but she's not getting outta my mind. There wouldn't be a minute where I'd stop thinking about her because she never gets off my mind. There is just something about her eyes. I just melt when I look into them. I don't know what it is. And I think she knows that I like her cus I know I kind make it obvious. I mean come on, I've always felt that teacher student relationships are disgusting. I mean, its disgusting to think about an older person. But she's just so different, she's just so amazing and she's just wonderful. There isn't a minute where I'd stop thinking about her. I know, she's the one. Its not for the physical appearance of hers. She's quite old. Its just about her eyes/heart.WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THIS? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

I've had a crush on my her for ages. I don't want her to know, nor would I ever tell her. I also wouldn't ever take actions upon this crush because, I'm just curious as to if he is aware of it.

Answer 1

i am in the exact same situation as you (except im a guy). This teacher i have, most would say she is not good looking but i find myself drawn to her consistently. i think about her all the time and when ever i get the chance i just stare at her. i know she knows this but im to scared to say anything and i know i always will be.

Answer 2

Yes, sweetie, she probably does know.  I am a teacher, and I find it very sweet and flattering when this happens.  But, of course, it would be very inappropriate for a teacher to act on the impulses of a student, when this sort of thing happens.  That is because there is an imbalance of power between a teacher and a student, you see.  The teacher has power and the student does not.  They are not equals, socially.  So learn all you can in this wonderful teacher's classroom.  Don't just learn academically, learn socially.  Always treasure your memories of this teacher.  But you should not try to go beyond that and develop a personal relationship, because of that power imbalance.  I know that it is hard for you.  It is always extremely difficult when one person is in love and the other person is not.  There is nothing more difficult, really.  But that is part of life, my darling.  I do know exactly what you are going through.  Many of us have gone through it, and trust me, you can get through this.  Buy a blank book, a very beautiful blank book, and write down all your feelings.  But don't tell your teacher how you feel.  It will only put her in a difficult position.  But savor these moments because many years from now you will be glad that you had them -- and that you kept them to yourself.  I know, because I had them too.  Now I'm over 50 and I still remember that teacher fondly.  That teacher probably doesn't remember me, but that doesn't matter.  I'll always remember for the both of us.  It made life worth living for me during a very difficult period.