Can the birth mother still know about her child if the child been adopted?

Question

if the birth mother feels that their is something wrong with her child can she still be invovled with the child life and know what is going on with the child

Answer 1

Only if it’s an open adoption  if its not then its up to the child parents if they want her involved in the child’s life or not, and if so how much.  A birthparent who is involved in an open adoption does not have any say in how the child is raised, disciplined etc, unless it’s a very very open adoption and the parents might  give the birthparent some input, but those are rare open adoptions.

Answer 2

If you have a semi-open or open adoption then most of the time you are receiving some information or updates on how the child is doing.  In most states however, agreements on contact etc are not legally enforceable.

Answer 3

I think it depends on the arrangements you have made

Answer 4

open adoption is not legally binding in the sense that you will maintain....rather, the parents must maintain contact.   statistically, they will not.

Answer 5

it all depends on you if you want her coming around and seeing the baby thats fine but just know i think its better to let the child know when they are about 4yrs old instead of hiding it.

Answer 6

If an open adoption has occurred, bio parents are kept informed about the child.  Someone earlier mentioned that there are things such as a semi-open or fully-open adoption.  The terminology is really dependent on the families and the agencies involved.  Many people do refer to sending pictures/letters as "open adoption" rather than semi-open.  

With regards to the bio parents having involvement with the child if they feel something is wrong, typically the answer would be they do not.  Once an adoption is finalized, a bio-parent has no say or involvement with the child except what is allowed by the adoptive parents.  However, if anyone, bio-parent or not, feels that a child is in danger or something is wrong, they have a right (and a responsibility) to report the issues to an agency that can investigate the issues on behalf of the child.

Answer 7

You can do an open adoption or semi-open adoption.  BUT, these are NOT legally binding.  The adoptive parents can close the adoption and cut off all contact at any time.  So honor these agreements and some don't.  

So, in reality, there is no way you can be sure that you will have any knowledge or involvement.

Answer 8

As a firstmom and not an adoptive mom I will answer.  I know what is going on in my daughters life.  I don't make the decisions but they will tell me what she has been up to and any problems that she has had.  Do I agree with some of the decisions -- no -- but they are her parents.

If something happens to her I will know about it.  If something doesn't happen to her I will know about it.

While our OA agreement is not legally binding they do tell me what is going on so that I know for myself that she is well.

ETA: Playstei -- pictures and notes is called SEMI Open adoption, not open

Answer 9

It depends on what type of adoption it is. If it's an open or semi open adoption then it's possible. But if it's a closed adoption then no you won't be allowed to have any contact with your child. It is also up to the adoptive parents whether you can see your child or not.

Answer 10

They should do open adoption.  That way the birth mother can visit, call, get emails, get pictures, and generally check up and make sure the child is ok.  If they already did the adoption but feel that there is something not right, they should call CPS (child protective services) They will make an unannounced visit and check up on them.

Answer 11

If it's an open adoption you should be talking with each other however you set up the arrangements. If it's a closed adoption, then no. But most adoptions are done openly where the communication between the birth mother/father and the adoptive mother/father should be exactly that OPEN!

Answer 12

Nope. Once you sign those papers you loose all rights to your child including any say in the way they are raised or the conditions they are raised in. Some APs may be generous enough to allow you some involvement but they are in no way obligated to do so.

Answer 13

If there are previous arrangements for the mother to have an open adoption, yes, she can be involved. I don't think, though, that the mother can just decide one day that she wants to know what's going on.

Answer 14

The amount of contact between adoptive parents/adoptee and birth parents should be agreed upon "up front", prior to any finalizations. However, if an adoption is semi open, meaning, letters as little as once a year, and handled through an adoption agency, there is always a chance for things to become "MORE" open.  The amount of openess varies, so both parties should be very clear up front.  As long as there is no risk of harm to the adoptee, I feel that it is best for the adoptee to have relationships with both sets of parents, but it should be their choice when they are old enough to say yes or no to the extent. It should not be forced upon them, only encouraged when possible.

Answer 15

It's called open adoption, however, she will have no parental rights or input once the child is adopted and relinquishment papers terminating parental rights are signed. That is part of all adoptions though.

How open an adoption is depends on what you can come to agreement to with the adoptive family. Some open adoptions only want pictures and occassional notes exchanged, others include that, visits a couple times a year and others get very open as part of it.