Can this be possible Isalmically?

Question

I no of some1 who thinks she is an omen on her family coz after she was born her father went to jail 4 two years. Whom ever she meets like her but not like really love her. Now she is married, her in laws r not as fond of her as they r of the other daughter in laws, her kids fear her more then they love her & her husband has never been able to achieve to something good after marriage.She said a good lucked wife's signs is that she brings prosperity to her husband .She is a very good person & tries her best to Practice islaam but she feels that she is like a curse upon everyone she gets linked to. She feels really sorry 7 cries alot & tell me wat can she do it is not in her hand, Allah has created her & if he wanted it in this manner wat can she do?

Answer 1

no one is a bad omen.  The fact that people went to jail after her birth has nothing to do with her.  I believe she herself feels she is a curse and as such she has it in her mind (a little bit of paranoia) that she can never be happy.  Its like a vicious circle and she keeps going around and around.  She needs to change her way of thinking and seeing her situation. She needs people to tell her that this is not true in order to encourage and reassure her.  I wish her the best.

Answer 2

There is no good or bad omen in the birth, coming or going of a person.

However, let her pray 5 times farz salat regularly and recite Subhanallah 33 times, Al Hamdu Lillah 33 times, Allahu Akbar 33 times and Lailaha Illallahu Wahdahu La Shareka Lahu, Lahul Mulku, Wa Lahul Hamdu, Wa Huva Ala Kulli Shai'in Qadeer once after every farz salat for Allah's sake.  There is a narration from the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) that those who recite the tasbeehs regularly after every farz salat will not become despaired.

Recitation of the tasbeeh "La Haula Wa La Quwwatha Illa Billahil Aliyyil Azeem" frequently is also very effective to all who are in distress.  Insha Allah, the affairs of your friend will be OK soon.

I shall make dua for the sister.

Answer 3

We cannot make a person or things associated for good or bad omen. Perhaps something bad happened in her child hood that made her think like that or she was grown up in not in a good loving and caring enviornment. I don't know.

Pharoah would ascribe any bad happened as because of Hazrath Musa (a.s) and his people and any good because of Pharoah himself. This was how he believed and not in truth.

Holy Quran says

But whenever they had good times they said "It is our due," and whenever evil befell them they ascribed that bad luck to Musa and those with him. Behold! In fact their misfortune was in the hands of Allah; yet most of them do not know. (Sura Al-A'raf: Ayah:131)

Answer 4

first of all sis Hanabee how she can decide that every one meet her like her not love her? what is her fault if her father was jailed after her birth.? may be he was involved in some thing wrong , that was her blessing to get him out of it. he may started a new & better life? in other way I can see some kind of  jealous toke place in her heart towards another daughter in law. may be she is feeling inferior. U know all of these r just because (soo uzzan billah wrong expectation  with Allah, we should have good hope and good expectation with Allah. every thing is written and will take place in it's correct time. so ask ur friend to be with Allah and don't be disappointed. Inna ma al Usre yusra .

may Allah help ur friend T.C

edit: yes Bro Dawn this is rite but can we say Allah has abhorred that sis so she feel like that absolutely not.                

Answer 5

she doesn't trust Allah's will nor trusts herself, keeping thinking she's omen and curse on her surrounding won't help her, everything happens according to a measure that Allah (swt) created, actually she needs to be closer to Allah and do her best,,

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

    "If Allah has loved a servant [of His], He calls Gabriel (on whom be peace) and says: 'I love So-and-so, therefore love him.'" He (the Prophet - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "So Gabriel loves him. Then he (Gabriel) calls out in heaven, saying: 'Allah loves So-and-so, therefore love him.' And the inhabitants of heaven love him." He (the Prophet - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Then acceptance is established for him on earth. And if Allah has abhorred a servant [of His], He calls Gabriel and says: 'I abhor So-and-so, therefore abhor him.' So Gabriel abhors him. Then Gabriel calls out to the inhabitants of heaven: 'Allah abhors So-and-so, therefore abhor him.'" He (the Prophet - peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "So they abhor him, and abhorrence is established for him on earth."

[Muslim (also by al-Bukhari, Malik, and at-Tirmidhi).]

Edit:

as long as she gets closer to Allah by good deeds, be sure, inshAllah Allah won't abhor her:

“The most beloved deeds with Allah are the most durable even if they are small” (Reported by Bukhari and Muslim)

"The best deeds to God, the Exalted, are setting prayers on time, being kind to parents, and struggling in the way of Allah"

and,,

The best of all people is the one who remains humble in glory, abstinent in affluence, just in strength and forbearing in power,,