Can u give me an list of punishments to give my 13 year old dauter?

Question

1.my child walks home she does not come home on time i give her 20 minutes to get home.

2.she gets mostly F's and D's on her testes in school.

3.she yells at her 8 year old brother for no reason

4.she has an attitude

5.she does not do any thing i say even if i tell her to clean her room

6.she almost snuck out

7.she has my space facebook msn aim hi5 i dont have an promblem with that couse i know she asked before she got it and her cousines promised if she does bad stuff on it they will tell me. the promblem is that she does not listen

8.she does not do her homework

9. she gets detention in school

10.she gets allowence

11.im an singel parent

i dont now what to do please just(GIVE ME SOME PUNISHMENTS TO GIVE HER)im begging she is almost to the point that i can call her spoild.

Answer 1

If she has a phone, take it away!

Take her computer away! Stereo, TV.  Everything that means stuff to her!

Make her work for her allowance,  chores around the house!

Be Firm, and tell her how things are gonna be.

Don't let her hangout with her friends.

You got to start early discipline shes at that age!

Im sorry im not very good, but if worst comes to worst BOOTCAMP!

Answer 2

IF she were disciplined you wouldn't need to punish her.  Why hasn't she ever been disciplined?  

As far as schoolwork that is HER responsibility, if she fails she will be held behind and won't be able to advance with her classmates.  It is not the end of the world and will not keep her out of college.  As far as the bedroom goes, shut the door.  Kids clean their rooms on their time schedule, and do better if not hounded about it.  As far as the rest of it...she's in the middle of puberty attitude, yelling at siblings.  As far as her facebook and hi5 she shouldn't have them period and YOU should be supervising and monitoring her time online because YOU are her parent and it is YOUR job.  

Answer 3

I can understand, its tough to handle children of that age when your a single parent...

you are living for you and your kids, they do not deserve any punishment...

just be good to your daughter.kids at this age have a lot of ego and they get defensive when parents "impose" their rules on them...

just spend quality time with them so that they understand that you want their affection and them to be well behaved...

and you understand that they want some "freedom" and less interference..

it will be tough for the initail period, but just have patience and be a child when you are talking to a child...that will let you know what they want from you...

Answer 4

SHOE COULD TEACH YOU HOW TO SPELL!!

Answer 5

dont give her internet, make her earn it.  she could slowly earn back the keyboard/mouse/internet/etc.  you should budget her time on the computer depending on her grades.  And obviously no free time/activities before homework is done and inspected.

Answer 6

im 13...

heres what to do:

1. If she does not come home on time, ground her, for example, 30 minues late, 3 day grounded. Where is she going? Why is she late? Can you pick her up? Lock her out?

2. Tell her if she dosent get her test grades up, no computer, cell, TV, friends, etc. Explain to her why an education is important, and what she will become of without it.

3&4. Grounded.

5. Lock her in her room/keep her in her room with everything*windows* locked till she does what you tell her. dont let her do anything, until she does what you said.

6. Call the cops if she does, that will get her in big trouble.

7. Tell her to delete them, or make her give you the passwords. if she dosent do eaither, take the computer away from her until she does so, or moniter her computer.

8. MAKE her do her homework, dont let her do anything eles.

9. Tell her its no ACCEPTABLE

11. WELL THEM PARENT YOUR CHILD.

GOD, she is spolied

NANNY 911!!!!!!!!!!

Just send her away to boot-camp for the bad kids.

or get her in juvie for a week.  

Answer 7

Take the keyboard off the computer whenever you/your son is done using it. Tell her she can use the comp. again when her grades and attitude improve. You paid for it, so she has no say. (If she gives you c**p, tell her that.)

Answer 8

1. threaten to delete her myspace/facebook/whatever profiles if she keeps up with the attitude.  if she keeps going, delete it (there is a way) and if she ends up with another, change the password and don't tell her!

2. no tv/computer until homework is done

3. DON'T GIVE HER ALLOWENCE for a MONTH if she can't get her grade above a c, or if she gets detention

4. take pics of her room (dirty) and threaten to show it to everyone (make sure there's some dirty undies and bras all over...)

this is what my mom did to me, and i ended up ok :) good luck

Answer 9

Maybe the problem is the parenting, not the child.

Consider family therapy... maybe learning to communicate with each other would be helpful.

I wasn't always the best parent, and made mistakes sometimes, too.  There were a lot of things i did not "see" from my perspective.  Sometimes it is a blessing to talk to a neutral party, such as a counselor.

i hope you get good answers here.

Answer 10

No allowance

give her limited time on the computer

tell her she can go on the computer only after you see her homweork

ask her question like why she gets detention

dont let her out on weekends with friends until she acts better

well, thats the things i came up with  

Answer 11

It would be best to sit down with your daughter and discuss the rules of the house calmly. Do not get confrontational or it will not work. Ask for her help in setting boundaries and rules. Try asking what she thinks would be good rules.

Please do not use being a solo parent as an excuse because I raised four great kids to adulthood as a solo parent. Teenagers do need rules and boundaries and will push you to the limits to find out how much they can get away with. She needs to know that there are consequences to her behaviour. Try stopping her allowance, grounding her, limiting her computer time. Does she do any chores for this allowance? Chores teach children that nothing is for free. If the chores are not done then there is no allowance. That simple! (If I do not go to work, I do not get paid.)

Rewards are always good. Set up a reward system. It only needs to be little treats and try some positive reinforcement. Don't forget to praise her when she does something you like.

(Gee it is nice to see you smiling, you have such a beautiful smile)Don't always be dwelling in the negative (You are always late, you are lazy)

Thirteen is a tough age. What are her friends like? Is she mixing with a tough crowd? Talk to your daughter, keep the lines of communication open, it is tough being a parent but it is worth it in the end.

Answer 12

You need to get control over her and quick before she ends up pregnant and on drugs.  Sounds awaful but watch maury one day and after 15 paternity tests for 14/15 year old mothers...  Anyway, I think the most important thing is follow thru with whatever punishments you make.  So many parents esp. single moms feel bad to actually take away their kids allowance, cell phone, etc. that make this cycle of lame threats to their kid.  If you say no tv and your kid turns on the tv indefiance.  Unplugg tv and move it to a lock room where kid cannot get at it.    Kid keeps coming home late- go to see her friends and ask what they were doing and why she keeps coming home late.  "Ask" them to help her get home on time.  She will be mortified if you get her friends involved.   Sit her butt down and have a heart to heart.  Tell her ou love her and want whats best for her and that she needs to trust your decisions.    TELL HER SHE HAS TO OBEY THE RULES OR SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES.   Establish consequences- punishment for first warnign items, second warnign items, third warning etc. and make them dramatically worse as you go.  Follow thru with it and she will turn around.  Kids need tough love sometimes.  

Answer 13

Talk to her nicely about how you feel about her attitude and ask her what's going on. Listen to what she has to say. Don't just scold and argue with her coz she won't listen. Show that you love her by spending quality time with her.(maybe you can bake, go shopping her her, etc.) A lot of times, teens rebel because they don't feel loved by their family, so show your LOVE towards her. I hope you'll see a change in her.

Answer 14

I'm sorry but your really going to have trouble controlling that child. You've let her take over you. This sounds brutal but you've got to do it. Do her homework with her and no allowance and don't let her watch any TV use any computer and have her options narrowed down to

1. Homework

2. Reading

3. Drawing

4. A favorite toy

5. talking to you or brother.

If she understands your hurting because of her actions she'll stop. And nobody likes that hard core punishment but it HAS to be done.

Answer 15

tell her friends embarrassing stuff about her

Answer 16

For me (I have two boys), the threat that usually works is removing computer time. I built a simple computer timer that lets me set time limits. It automatically enforces the limits, giving the kids "5 minutes left" reminders and then boots them off when their time runs out. For rewards, you can easily add time on any particular day. You can easily remove time or block it entirely too. Individual limits can be set for each child. The software is for Windows XP/Vista, is extremely easy to use, and can't be bypassed by tech-savvy kids. Give it a try at www.TimesUpKidz.com

Answer 17

Haha i am 13.

Get her a tutor. Lock the doors. Ground her. Take off the internet, or monitor what she does on the computer. Take away her cell phone. Dont give her allowance. Tell her you will sign her homework every day orelse she doesnt get allowance. If she gets lower than a c, she is grounded and make her sit in a room studying for tests.