Can u help my brother's friend pls?

Question

well basically he really likes this girl at his school, like when i mean like, he really likes her, lool :P. he was telling my bro about her, and she's muslim, and cos she's one of them "good" muslimah's that's why he likes her. So umm he's 17 and she's 17 too, he has her email address, but he's always too shy to speak to her, and as the same with her too.

so umm like he can't stop thinking about her, and well quite frankly this is affecting his studies. So like what can he do??? I mean no way do they wana get married, lool. But he just really can't get over her.

Any ideas what my bro can tell him??

Answer 1

love without marriage is like hardship without action. if you continue to think about it, you will make yourself crazy and your situation will not improve. but if you take action, you can only improve your situation. so he can consider marriage or leave it as is and forget about it- don't dwell on something you can't have it will put barriers in reaching your other goals in life.

sorry i dont know how to use yahoo too much yet, so i m answering 'Truth163' post here: what do you mean theres no such thing as muslima? do u know anything about arabic? muslima/muslimah is feminine of muslim. many arabic words are made feminine by adding a (ta) at the end which is pronounced 'h' so muslim becomes muslim-ah. though i am not arab and i don't speak arabic, this is what i've learned.

Answer 2

lil sis H.K:P

ask him to concentrate on his study and avoid any thing can distract him from his study. If both of them knows each other and have the same feelings, let them wait. and they should not go so far in this matter and he must stop thinking about her.  Such a kind of relationship be4 marriage is not permissible. It can take them to the wrong step. May Allah protect them. he& she can make mutual understanding and book them selves to each other if both r interested. bytheirr elders.  but in case of one side love it should not continued.

May Allah help them        

Answer 3

Peace...

First of all a Muslim means one who submits there will to God. A muslim is referred to both male and female.

There is no word as muslimA, it is madeup and very bad as it teaches others that there is such a thing as a muslimA..

When a non-muslim asks what are you, a woman says " i am a muslim" not a muslima!..ask any imam and see there is no such thing as a muslimA.

Now to ur question..Your bro can get over her by going upto her and asking her..though this isnt the islamic way...

Then you say to him that you are his sis and you care about him and also say that why do u want a girl who likes you for how u look but not who you are, if they do do something

Pray that he is guided.....

Hope it helped, i am here to clear the misconceptions about Islam...

Peace

Answer 4

did you ask Allah?

Did you ask Muhammed SAW and his ways and friends?

Did you ask yourself

Did you ask those you love around you

BEFORE YOU ASK THIS PATHETIC PLACE! HOLY c**p!

you people are sick!

Answer 5

With honesty I would not advise him to get in contact with her, since it will just lead him and her the wrong way.

Of course he can stop thinking about her, he needs to remain busy in beneficial stuff.

Answer 6

the best thing to do is try not to think about her. you dont want them to go in the wrong direction if yuo know what i mean.

he should forget her and really concentrate about his studies. or if he has the guts to tell his parents then sure.

but i couldnever do that. its impossibel. telling ym parents i like/liked som1...

Answer 7

Go to her parents and propose for marriage without fooling around.

Otherwise let him fast and fear Allaah.  

Answer 8

I would advise him to stay on track wth his studies remain patient and devote his time to the one who he should love first and foremost even more than a crush, Allah (swt) pray to god sincerely and ask for forgiveness for not lowering his gaze. Also to be patient and inshallah he will have a marvellous companion in the future. =)