Can u press charges on a 6-7 yr or his parents for the child going after ur child after school & on the bus?

Question

There are a few boys 6-7yrs that are going after my 6yr son all the time punching him and choking him. Is there anything I can do other then going to the school. Can I press charges on the child or parents. I am at a lose. Since it seems like now a days kids have no problems brings guns and kinves to school to handles things even kids starting at 5

Answer 1

It's best to go to the school first.  Them kids are very young, it's not appropriate to run to the police yet.  If your child gets really hurt, their parents could have to pay for the medical bills.  The parents may not even be aware of what the kids are doing.  And the school bus driver schould be noticing these thing, & she/he should be yeling at the kids, & telling the principal.  Go to the school first, if nothing happens, than you can go to the cops, but I don't think there's anything that the cops can do.  And you also have to be sure that your son isn't acting up either, he could be fighting too, but not telling you.  Either way, this needs to stop.

Answer 2

Other then going to the school?  That's the first thing you should do.

Answer 3

Maybe you should pick him up from the bus stop.

Answer 4

You have to teach your son how to handle problems like this himself.  Pressing charges is not the answer.  You don't want your son to be the kid whose mommy sticks up for him, you want him to stick up for himself.

Eventually, the kids will stop if he keeps telling them to stop.  My son went through something similar in the second grade.  I told him that he needs to tell them to leave him alone.  He's now in the fifth grade and friends with the same kids who used to give him such a hard time.

You have to teach your son to stick up for himself.  If you can't do it, find someone who will.  Put him in a karate class, he'll learn a lot more than how to defend himself.

Answer 5

Where the h**l does "worried person" live? and if he lives in this Utopia why is he worried. Things have changed it wasn't as bad as when I was in school. You have take action. I would go to the principal, contact the other childs parents for a meeting to let them know what's going on, because honestly they probably don't. T he bus driver is nice, but doesn't report to the school what's happening? I wouldn't let the other boy off at your sons stop unless that was the place he was supposed to get off the bus. and even then i would alert you to what was going on. If the principal doesn't solve, i'd go to the superintendant, and I would also be reporting every single incident to the police..keep an account of them.

The thing is sometimes the victim gets so tired of being picked on and bullied that they take action in other ways and they end up being the ones who get in trouble. Like here where I live, a boy was being constantly beat up, and one day he brought a gun to school and shot the boys who picked on him....now he's the one in trouble. You don't want that to be your son. Good Luck

Answer 6

The whole "now a days" or "these days" myths are just myths, the world in my opinion is not anymore dangerous than it used to be.

I don't think you should press charges. It will not solve anything. It will not teach those kids anything, it will only cause tension between the parents and the school.

You should just take it to the school, but don't obsess over it.

Give your son self esteem and confidence.

Answer 7

I went through this with my daughter last year on the school bus........there were 11 and 12 year old boys picking on her.......there wasn't a day that she didn't get off the bus crying and most often bleeding.  The bus driver was absolutely no help in the situation. The boy's parents were also no help. So I told her to defend herself.  The next time one of the boys started in on her, she scratched him on the face.

She received a bus write-up for the incident as did the two boys involved.  I went to the school and spoke to the principal about the situation, what had been occuring, and why I my daughter defended herself.

My daughter received no reprimand from the school, but the bus driver did, and seats were assigned that afternoon.

Answer 8

don't press charges on a 7-year-old.

go to the school and talk to the principal and tell him exactly what is going on, and ask what the school is going to do to keep your child safe.  talk to the bus driver, as well.  tell your son to sit as near to the front as possible on the bus, and preferably with a friend.  tell him to tell the kids in a firm, strong voice to cut it out, and if that doesn't work, to walk away ... and if that doesn't work, to get a grownup.  tell him it's okay to fight back if he's unable to walk away or get a grownup.  talk to the teacher and figure out if there are any behaviors that your son is being picked on for that you can work on with him.

if none of these things help, i'd write a letter to the school detailing the incidents (which will make it more necessary for them to do something to avoid a lawsuit).  and i'd start picking my child up at school.  teasing is one thing, but 6 is too young to deal with real violence on your own.

Answer 9

Personally, this is one of the many reasons I homeschool... but I realize this isn't an option for everyone. When I let my son go back to school in 2nd grade the principal called me saying another little girl had threatened him, that she said she was going to bring a gun to school and shoot him!! SECOND GRADE! And the principal sounded only barely concerned!

I would have a report written up and WRITE a formal complaint to the school about the children's behaviors. Even if your child is causing some of the problems, punching and choking is not acceptable. You want to make a paper trail against these kids, and if needed or if it escalates then you will be able to take legal action against the parents if need be. I think it is probably too early to press charges or go to the police - for now I would make sure the school is aware and see if there is a positive change. If there isn't within a week or two, then let them know if it happens again you will take the bullying seriously and hold them responsible. They are responsible for your child's actions and your child is in their charge.

It is unfortunate that schools have to deal with problems like this these days. It is likely more the parents issue than the school's. But they have resources to help this stop.

Answer 10

We have went through this with our neighbor's for the last year and it is frustrating to say the least.  We called to get a restraining order against their daughter after she continuously assaulted our 7 year old son ( the girl was 13 ) would have him down kicking him in the head, choking him, knock him off his bike if he was riding it and went as far as to shove him into the road in front of a car but guess what you can not get a restraining order against a minor.  The only thing that you can do is to contact the police department everytime something happens and fill out a report, if the police believe there is a problem then they will contact the juvenille authorities to deal with the child.  As far as the parents go if the child breaks or damages anything of your sons then you can file a claim in small claims court to sue for damages but they can not be charged with anything themselves.  If the issue is on the school bus and the bus only then you can also go to the school and inform them of what is going on and ask why the bus driver is not stepping in.  The boys can be stopped from riding the bus and the parents made to transport them to school for inapropriate behavoir on the bus.

Answer 11

if nothing seems to be getting better - speak with the principal along with the other parents at the same time - together figure out why the boys arent getting along.  Boys this young generally dont intentionally "hurt"other kids.  My son was being tackled by a fellow first grader on a weekly basis - the turned out was just trying to get his attention.  Kids at this age don't always handle things well - maybe your son did something to them at some point they are still mad at - maybe to them it isnt rough play at all?   again, these are VERY young kids and probably the first of many run ins your child will have over the years (speaking of a mother of all boys who has been on both sides of the situation).   Try to sort out the issues at the meeting to protect all the kids..but dont blow it out of proportion just yet, there is always 2 sides to every story and you really want to show your son how to solve a problem constructively.  hopefully the other parents will see this as much of a problem as you do and will get to the bottom of their kids behavior.

Answer 12

You can file a police report, which will be quite helpful when this kid pulls another stunt.

The more important question here is: how are you going to protect your son?  Would you ride on a bus with people who choked you?

Answer 13

You need to get the school involved in this. The principal should be talking to all the children involved and the parents. There should defiantly be some type of meeting between everyone involved to solve this issue.

Is there any way you could talk to the other boys parents. Explain what is  going on and try to get all the boys to get along. Maybe all the parents could meet up and set up a "playdate" will all the kids, go to someplace fun where all the boys could play and realize that there is no reason to be bullying. That is the ideal solution, which may not work.

If the bus driver is monitoring the activity inside of the bus(keeping it from happening), then maybe you should be going down to the bus stop to get your son to make sure these children are not getting off the bus at your sons stop, just to bully him.

There is no reason to press charges on a child. You probably wouldn't be able to do it anyway, and it is not going to help the situation. A 6 year old is not going to be arrested for violating a restraining order.

Answer 14

My school and most schools have a no bullying policy. I would REALLY look into that.  Do they have a handbook? look in there

It now pertains outside the school as well.

Talk to the principal..if the principal is not if any help...go to the superindendent. Keep a log of the events and call the school VERY time it happens?

Where is this happening-just on the bus? The bus driver should get in trouble then-I don't care how nice they are.

Also, why is he walking home himself? can't someone pick him up?

Answer 15

I don't know why these boys would do such things! You need to speak to the school about it, if you want to take action, because, if you are cowering away from the school, nothing will happen against it! For the good of your son, you need to talk to the school. If it carries on, I would seriously consider moving schools!

Answer 16

let your son handle it, this is an important stage in growing up, it will put lead in his pencil