Can us having a past change his bad ways?

Question

ok so this guy and i have been friends since we were in elementary school. we liked each other all threw jr. and high school. we never dated due to time, other relationships stuff like that. after we graduated he joined the army and we lost contact for about 9 years. now we are back in each others lives and it feels just like old times. we started talking all the time, first is was just as friends and now its getting to be a little more. he told me that he was married and that he cheated on his wife several times. he claims that now he has grown up and does not want to be like that anymore. he wants to be with me and always has. he thought of me as the one that got away. he claims he would never do that to me because of who i am and our past. should i believe that because we share a past that he wont do the same to me?

Answer 1

NO a leopard never changes its spots.once a flirt always a flirt .If the opportunity arises he will take it.

Answer 2

What you see is what you'll get.  He's a cheater.  He'll cheat on you.  People don't change.

Answer 3

Oh no, please don´t believe that. Sure your past connects you two, but the past is the past. Nothing of the future connects you to be with him, and besides he´s married! To begin with, just the fact that he´s married should let you know never to get involved with a married man. How about you look for another man, a different one, a better one! Why go to the past? Sure you had a great time and it seemed like destiny keeps bringing you together, but if you stay with him he´ll cheat on his wife which is already sinful and evil! You´d be breaking up a marriage and becoming the "other woman". Why would you want that?

There are so so so many free good men out there, why him? He´s even confided he´s cheated before, that´s not good and him saying that you, when that´s a private matter about him and his wife. No, this guy is no good for you.

Answer 4

Well my opinion is maybe he has changed and he actually wants a relationship with you. Just because he cheated on someone else does not mean he will do it with you..... I hate the saying once a cheater always a cheater that is not true not one bit......  so just go where your heart tells you to go.

Answer 5

NOTHING will change him unless HE chooses to change for himself.

Beware of the phrase "I'll change for you". It's a game. He will play you just like ALL his other "conquests".

Once a cheater... ALLways a cheater.

Answer 6

No, but if you fall for that line, you need to remember that if he cheated once, he will cheat on you. Just get ready, it's coming.

Answer 7

It's very possible he's admitting to mistakes and trying to change his ways, but at the same time I wouldn't blame you if you were doubtful.  What he said doesn't necessarily mean anything, but you could spend time getting to know him and learn more about it.  There's no real way to find out except with time.