Can you accept a girl to be your wife? once she worked as a strip dancer? She is getting married soon.?

Question

I have a friend that needs advice. or opinion.. She have a boyfriend who is well known to their community.... She is very much concern of her past.... Is she going to quit or still marry him though he still doesn't know her past...

Answer 1

He should be aware of what he's getting into.

If she's not honest enough to tell him about her past, this isn't a good sign of trust for the future.

When he finds out later, (and he will), likely he will be hurt an betrayed, and angry.

Tell him upfront, it might not be a big deal for him, (it might end the relationship), but it will certainly destroy it later

Luck

Answer 2

I would make sure she's moved far far past that, goes to church, has new nice conservative friends who don't feel the need to degrade themselves, and make sure the OBGYN says she's clean and free of all diseases.

He should know her past, because that is pretty serious skankiness, but she can be free of it and she can never go back to anyone from that time.

Answer 3

If he was a decent guy, he would accept her for who she is and that includes her past. There's nothing wrong with working as an erotic dancer at all, in my opinion. It's a job like any other. She should probably tell him about her past because he deserves to know. A marriage should not be built on lies. If he can't accept her past, then it's his loss and she deserves someone who will love her for who she is.

Answer 4

Do people of the community they live in know that she was a stripper?   If not then I wouldn't tell.   It may cast a negative light on her.   Everyone isn't so open minded.   The whole negative connotation about stripping isn't just because of the stripping its because of the con game and ripping off of guys that go along with the career of stripping.   It may change his opinion of her and he may think she is just using him.   If they get married and he doesn't find out about her past until many years later then he can probably accept it because he would feel he knows her as a good person now.