Can you be a great Dad if you don't even live with your kids full-time?

Question

I hear so many people say "I'm a great Dad! I see my kids every weekend whether I want to or not!".

Well guess what guys! I see my kid everyday as well as every weekend 'cos I'm still married to his Mum, and provide a roof over their heads, and live in the same house!

Do these guys really believe that part-time fatherhood is the real deal???

Answer 1

you want to be glad you can see your kids every day lots of good fathers never get the chance because of things that have hapend beyond there control you prat

Answer 2

when divorce or separations happen in families fathers and even mothers, some try their best to be apart of their children's lives. but of course some think that its an obligation and not a wonderful deal. but when this happens to family's and they like to think that they are a great parent.and maybe they are. no one know what goes on in family's that causes them to split and how the other is going to react when children are involved.

i do believe that some times when fathers are not in their children's lives every day, it's hard, but they can still be a great dad. they just have to try hard to be  their for their children, even when they don't live in the same house hold. you don't have to be with anyone 24/7 to be a great parent. some times the split is better for the children, because of the mother and father's behavior to each other. children need to be raised in a loving atmosphere, if not with both parents together then separate is the best way to go.    

Answer 3

No. Nothing beats being a full time parent. If one can be a part time father, I guess soon there'll be part time children???

Answer 4

Just cos you live with them full time does not necessarily make you a better dad.

Answer 5

People say "I take of my Kids" like its something to be proud of.......Your supposed to you dumb@ss

Chris Rock

Answer 6

Yes of course. My boyfreind is lucky to see our son one day every two weeks because of the way things are right now. We have no other choice because we cant afford it. He lives two hours away works more the 50 hours a week and goes to school full time. I live with my mom, take care of our son full time and go to school full time. What makes him a good dad is that he does everything he can to ensure that as soon as possible we can all be together. When hes here he plays with Logan, changes diapers, changes clothes, holds him and comforts him and anything else he can do for his child. He gives everything he has to make sure his son is ok.

I do agree with you though that theres something wrong with any parent who says that they are great because they see their child even when they dont want to. Parenting is a full time responsibility and you dont get to pick and choose when your going to be one. You dont always have to be there as long as when your away your doing what you can to support your child, and when your there your doing what you can to support your child, think financially away, emotionally there. If you dont even want to see your kids when you only have them on weekends you dont deserve them at all.

Answer 7

Whether they know it or not their kids are the ones that got cheated by having a weekend dad. It is not the same, the relationship will never be full or good enough. Those kids end up lacking support for the rest of their lives and they develop a lot of issues.

Answer 8

Of course, don't believe anything else : )

Answer 9

Aslong as you supply and pay for them, and show them love and affection you will be a great dad and they will love you very much so.

Answer 10

nope...u cant be... for me, u can only be a great dad if you take care of your family, not only your kids but your wife as well...because  how can be your kids be happy if they can see it that you and your wife are not in good relationship? so think about it...

Answer 11

dont be a prick. my father was a great dad and i moved out of his house age 17, he was still an ace dad until he died. wake up.  

Answer 12

You can still be a great father whether you live with your kids or not. My parents divorced when I was 8, and I lived with my mom and stayed with daddy on the weekends. He was a great father. Whether or not you live with your kids doesn't determine how great of a dad you are. Its about how much you love them, how well you know them, and if you want to be around. Im sure my dad was a h**l of a lot better then some of the dads who are still married to their childs mother! He was caring, understanding, and he would have done anything for me or my sisters. He would give his last dollar to buy us things. We didn't ask for them, or beg, but he still bought them anyway. When I would be having trouble with my mother(she is an alcoholic) I would call dad and talk to him and he would make everything better. I only stayed with him on weekends, but he was still a great father to me. My dad died 3 years ago in December, when I was 12. So I didn't get to spend very much time with him, but he was an amazing man and an amazing father!

Getting divorced has nothing to do with how much you love your children. My parents got divorced because they fought all the time, and they didn't think it was a good environment for my sister and I. Isn't it better to get divorced then put your children the the pain of seeing you fight every single day, hearing the screaming and yelling?

So, I think your a dumbass. Just because you live with your kid doesn't make you a better dad.

At least part time fathers are actually there to help take care of the children. They could just decide that they didn't want to see there kids anymore and they didn't want the responsibility and leave. Now would that be better!?

Answer 13

it doesn't matter if you live with your kids full time or not and it's not about the quantity of time you spend with them but the quality time you spend with them. I know some dads that don't live with their kids but take off every chance they can get and are at everything that the child does. They are there for their kids no matter what. I think that makes a better dad then the ones that only call/visit once in a blue moon, like my kids dad does. At first they wanted to hear from him but now when he calls, they are "I;m too busy to talk to him" He gets the same treatment as he gives. So it's always "quality over quantity"

Answer 14

Part time fatherhood is not as good as full time fatherhood.  That is without debate.

However - I would far prefer a divorced father of children to be active in his children's lives than not.  Too many fathers divorce the kids along w/ the wife - or allow the wife to harass him out of the kids lives.

I presume you have a buddy who has custody of kids on weekends...he is probably overwhelmed at times - not knowing what to do with them.  Perhaps you could invite him and his kids to join up w/ your family for outtings....such as to park for old fashioned softball game, fishing, camping, etc.  

Part time fatherhood is much preferable to no father at all.  At least these dads are trying.

Answer 15

The father is still the father even if they have only visitation As long as u take care of your kids and love them u can be a great father.

Answer 16

You are lucky you live with your kids. I'm divorced (her decision)...so I've had to be the best father I can while living away from them. It's not the same but I'm sure my kids would say I'm a good father.

Answer 17

yea a father that doesnt live at home with his children can b a great dad..

my ex and i seperated..we have two daughters and even though he couldnt see them every minute of every day..they couldnt have wanted a better father...

he saw them whenever he wanted, was welcome in my home anytime, provided for their every need and we never fought about when/where he could take them...

as a result they grew up to b two wonderful young ladies, working, have great guys (our oldest got married) and we have a wonderful grandson..

so dont make the assumption that just because a father doesnt live in the same house as his children that hes not a great father...