Can you be "un-adopted?"?

Question

I'm 13 and I was adopted when I was 2 months old. My birth mom and I have been in touch my whole life. Than I heard my birth mom and my mom fighting and Tammy (my birth mom,) said that she want's to get me back. She said that she is dating a Laywer, who will get me back. But I don't want to go back, and her life is a mess. She has no money, she's got bad medical problems, her kids have gotten taken away, and she takes money from ME. Not my mom, ME. Her 13 year old daughter.

Please help I don't want to go back to her..

Answer 1

when you give your kid up for adoption there is only a small window of time that you might be able to get them back but it has definitely passed so your fine

Answer 2

No.  Your adoption was finalized a long time ago and I can't imagine any judge even considering overturning it after 13 years.  I'm sorry that you've been put through worry and stress over this, but put your mind at ease.  

Good luck!

Answer 3

no. I'm adopted, don't worry. Some paretns just never stop fuming about having mean nasty people take THEIR baby away. Especially with drugs and stuff. Most parents are into/around (like mine).

No u cannot be un- adopted once you are adopted you are adopted for life. No one can take you away. (unless of course your adoptive family isn't good. but that's in rare cases as in 1 in 99 billion :D)

Best wishes

Shakira

Answer 4

No.if everything is legally signed then she has no rights what so ever.she even has no rights to be in touch with you now,if if that is what you choose.

Answer 5

There is no way at all what so ever that your real mother can have you back.  She gave up rights to you a very long time ago and she is no longer your mother. it doesnt matter what she does no lawyer can take a child away from their parents for no reason.  No matter if its their birth parents or addoptive parents i think your real mom is being a little rediculious

Answer 6

un-adopted is not a word

Answer 7

No.  There is a time frame after the original adoption that things can be revoked, but after 12 years that time frame has definitely passed, and no matter what lawyer she is dating, nothing can undo that.  I would say especially since you are old enough to know what is going on.  If a motion is filed by your birth mother, your parents can request that the courts listen to you and your testimony/wishes as well.  If anything does actually go to court, your parents' attorney will know to investigate your birth mom's background, will see that her other children were taken away, and you can tell them that she takes money from you.  I'm sure any competent lawyer and family judge will question why after so many years she wants you back.

I wouldn't worry too much.  You have built a bond with your adoptive parents, and consider them Mom and Dad.  It is great that you know who your real mother is, but I would guarantee that no one would give you back to your birth mother after so long.

Answer 8

see if you can get in touch with child protection agency (something along those lines) and tell them about your situation

Answer 9

no she can't, as she signed the rights to be your gaurdian away when she signed the adoption consent form away to your adopted mother.

Plus by the way your disscribed her life, she is in no fit state to mind a child therefore you would never be given to her in courts

Dont worry

Answer 10

No one can take you away from your adoptive parents!  It's not like you're still a baby, and the decision was just made.  You have been with your family your whole life.   It sounds like you are happy there, and that you love them.    No one is going to take you away.

Answer 11

No it has been fianlized so you can't be unadopted.  If she can prove ther she was forced maybe but most judges will ask you since your are so old.  I don't think it will even come to that

Answer 12

Well, Sweetie, there is such a thing as "disrupted adoption".  However, that's a totally different situation.  It would not apply to your situation.  If your adoption was legal and above board, and all procedures were followed your birth mother has no rights whatsoever to "take" you away from your adopted family.  It is cruel for her to threaten you like that.

Answer 13

No your birth mom can not get you back.  Even with a good lawyer the time frame is past.  States will range from 1 day to 1 year and 13 years is too long.  If she is doing this to you, you have to be strong enough to tell her that she was the birth mother, but your real mom is the one you live with.  You also have a right to cut off contact.  She seems to be alittle off her rocker, so be grateful that she gave you up for adoption and you are not living in that situation were you would of been taken away.

My issue though, if she is dating a Lawyer, wouldn't he realize she is a mess?

Answer 14

As your are 13 years old if this even goes to the judge( which it shouldn't because all the papers are signed ) You will be asked where you want to live and why? Also if she has had your siblings removed from her care there is no way you would be placed back there.You will have the same rights as if your mother and father split up and they were fighting over you.

But this shouldn't even get to the judge as your adoptive parents are your legal guardians and even if you wanted to go and live with your mother you wouldn't be allowed until you were 16 without their permission so you shouldn't worry, and stop giving her money! if she has a boyfriend whos a laywer let her have it off him, or tell her to get a job!

Answer 15

if you have been legally adopted, she will not get you back.

Answer 16

She sounds really unstable to me, and any competent judge will be able to realize this.  Even if she is dating a lawyer, that doesn't automatically mean she will be able to do what she wants.  A judge will look at all angles, her history of childrearing, medical issues, credit, etc.  You need to tell your mother (your adopted mom)  how you feel.  Tell her your birth mother is taking money from you.  

Anyhow, from what you said, she sounds like a person who lies, and who knows if she is dating a lawyer?  

Above all, communicate your worries to your mother, and talk!!  I bet she will be able to reassure you!!

Good luck.  Another word of advice, take everything that your birth mom says with a HUGE grain of salt!!  (That means, don't believe everything she says!!)

Answer 17

Don't worry...your birth mother has no legal right to you.

Answer 18

dont you have a say in any of that? talk to your birth mom's lawyer, see what he says. i'm sure if you explain he'll at least talk to your birth mom

unless you go straigh to ur birth mom, but i dont know how close you guys are. i just assume you aren't as close as her and her bf

Answer 19

Your mother remitted her custody to you when she signed legal documentation for your adoption.  It's one thing to want, wish, etc.  It's quite another about the reality of your situation.  Additionally since you are old enough to voice your opinion of your birth mother's wish, you have nothing to worry about.

Answer 20

You are old enough to help make this decision. It MAY go to court but I doubt it even will. If it does, simply tell the judge what you want. He or She will listen to you first. It sounds like she has no means to care for you anyway, she would have to really prove first that she could care for you well and secondly that your adoptive mother cannot.

Answer 21

well you are so young and shouldn't  have to deal with this fear.  I would talk to you mom, I mean the one who is really taking care of you,not the lady who gave birth to you.  Let her know of your fears and maybe she will rethink the ffects of even letting her stay in your life. she should have cut all ties after you were adopted, that was why your birtrh mother did this, she couldn't care for you, and seeing her all the time is not helping you.  just don't worry it will work out for the best and TELL EVERYONE HOW YOU FEEL TO STOP THIS!

Answer 22

No she wont be able to get you back. When you were adopted she signed off all rights to you so even if she wanted you back there is no chance. Don't worry about it at all, there is no way she can :)

Answer 23

Well tell the judge that because u dont deserve to live a life liek that.

Answer 24

the important question is if it was a legal adoption or she just gave custody to your mom.  You might not really know unless you ask your mom.

If you were legally adopted than you can not be un adopted.  However, if she gave custody to your mother that may be reversed.

Why don't you ask your mother (not birth mother)

addition:  If that is the case, than you should be fine.  I work for child protection services and I find a lot of unfit parents make so many threats (lawyers, court etc.) but they never act on it or if they do, it never works out.  Becuase they are still unfit (just like her taking ur money).

Stay cool, your birth mother is just talking.  The law is on your mom's side (not birth mom) and your side.  There is no way a judge can touch that.

Answer 25

No she can not take you from your adopted mother. Your Birth Mother was most likely upset and was using threats to try to scare your adopted mom.

Please talk to your adopted mom and let her know what you overheard. She can reassure you that it is not possible for your birth mom to reverse the adoption.

Answer 26

tell a court this

Answer 27

I don't think it is possible.  Your birth mom gave up all rights to you when she signed the adoption papers.  Besides at this age that you are you most likely would get a say in your disposition.   As far as the law is concerned your mom and dad who adopted you are your real parents! And they won't take you away from them.  They might as well have given birth to you :)

Answer 28

its the  simular situation with me

my dad want me bk but i dont want to go to him

the social workers ask you what YOU want to do.

so dont worry... [=

i think im adopted..........i live with my auntie

Answer 29

She cannot "take" you back.  Your adoptive parents are legally your family and your birth mother signed away all parental rights when she gave you up.  I hope that you will tell your adoptive mother about these concerns.