Can you be to generous for your own good?

Question

As in giving money away only to find you needed it yourself, so you have to suffer the consequences.

Answer 1

I had this thought today ironically. I for some reason, for last 7 or 8 years have surppressed alot of things in order to become a good person. I just keep feeling like I am suppossed to be a good person  and it seems like I am now questioning whether I am too nice. Bc I don't know if poeple even like people who are extremely nice. Do they? I don'r know. I can't really explain it. I want to be a good person, bt I don't want to miss out in life on things. I think I need to be more agressive. I am always watching what I do, to the extreme around other people and being overly cautious. But I think its almost a negative.

Answer 2

To some extent, yes.

People may eventually start to take your generosity for granted and abuse it.

Answer 3

better to give as receive?you always feel better?

Answer 4

YES... A friend asks me to look after her kids,i automatically say "yes of course i can" when i really mean " No way, i already have my own 2 and am 30 weeks pregnant and tired!" Someone asks to borrow a fiver, i dont have it but will borrow it from someone else for you..if that makes sense, then not only did i start with no money but now i owe out money aswell!! I know i do it but cant help it, have to learn the word NO...NO No NO NO NO  

Answer 5

Yes- people are inherently selfish (for example: a baby cries for its own milk, not for the baby in the next crib). You can be too generous, but whether or not that is a bad thing is up for debate.

Answer 6

Yeah I'm a bit like that, I'm older now though and ive leaned from experiences

Answer 7

Yes I do it all the time, always put others needs in front of my own, its my greatest flaw, whether it be lending money, babysitting, dogsitting, cooking for others for free, housing people for up to a month (housing commission rules) washing, ironing etc., it goes on and on, if I need something but someone else needs something then I get it for them and say to myself one day I'll get that, but it never happens lol!  Oh well, I suppose people know that they can use you so they do, like the saying goes fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, it fits me to a tee lol! :)