Can you change a feeling of jelously?

Question

i know i shouldnt feel like this and i dont want to anymore. My mum recnetly split from my dad as he had an affair a got his mistress pregnant. i have seen my dad and little sister (the one he had with his mistress) about 3 times since then (a year ago) and struggled alot with the feeling of jelously that he was with her everynight and never saw me, i eventually got over the feeling but still find it very hard to see him cuddle and fiss and kiss her and ingnore me. The my mum started dating a man and a week ago he and his teenage daughter moved into our home. my mum and me used to be so close but now things have changed and i feel i should beable to acept this but i cant. I feel like someone come and took my dad and now someone has come along and took my mum. Silly things upset me like today my mum and the daughter are going for a nice shop and lunch in woodham and im stuck here at work on my own. and yesturday i went out quickly and when i got back noone was there, i rang my mum to see where she was and she said 'oh me and holly (the daughter) are taking the dog out for a walk' but they didnt even ask if i wanted to come. and they always sit down and have a family dinner but i get in from work later than them and i have to eat my dinner alone when i get home. and my wardrobe in my room is broken, i asked my mum to help me fix it and she keeps sayiung yes but never doing it, then she went out and brought holly a brand new wardrobe and chest of drawers! and i feel so alone. how can i stop feeling like this? its bringing me down but i cant fight it.

Answer 1

Ok now when I first saw your question without all the details I thought it might be about dating etc., but this is a little bit more involved.  If it was about a relationship I could say it's easy you need to mature up, jealousy is an emotion and it depends on you level of maturity that determines a persons level of jealousy.  I am not the jealous type, and for that some women think I would love them less because not much gets me excited when it comes to women and the opposite s*x!  However you are talking about being jealous of a step sibling in essence, now my dear this is a tough one I think by what you described, you have some reasons for concern, but just like in a relationship with the issue of jealousy, you have to think of it from the others perspective.  And in any case relationships are relationships, the key to any and all is communication.  Talk to mom point out what you are seeing and what you would like to have happen. Don't be whinny or bitchy, just tell her your feelings and what you would like to have happen and the rest is up to her.  If she is rational and cares about you she will change the whole way she does things from then on out.  Just remember don't be emotional about this its very simple you are her daughter you should be first, but you feel as though you are kind of being replaced and if what you've described is true I think rightfully so.  But sounds like the boyfriends daughter is around more your off working so maybe that plays a factor so sad to say whomever is available is the one who get the attention and time, so think about how you can be around your mom more too in order to foster more activities between you and her; make a 3 some out of it, no reason you can't include your new future sister right, are they getting married!  Ok well best of luck to you now okay any more advice contact me directly!

Guy

Answer 2

This happened to me also. I would see my dad in the floor playing with his new family and it was ripping my and my brothers heart because he never played with us. There was never affection for us, no hugs or kisses. For years we held it in and he never knew that it hurt us. We didn't want to cause trouble with his new family so we suffered. So I say to you get it out and don't let it burden you for the rest of your life. As I have gotten wiser I realize that's all we needed to do was to let them know and it would have broken many barriers and hard feelings. In the future don't suppress things inside ,it will only torment you until you get free of it. God bless you.

Answer 3

Of Course! We can. Not Every time but sometime i feel jealousy and that time i think positive.Example:-- You have a good some thing,

like nice clothes at that time Think can i purchase clothes good as you.I think his family members earn good as we.

Forgo all talk and remember God has never wrong with us.

That's it.