Can you forgive AND forget or, just forgive?

Question

If someone betrayed your trust, could you forgive and forget or forgive and never quite trust that person as before. Or, in time, grow to trust as before?

Answer 1

On a personal level, yes I can forgive and forget, I have done it many times and in looking back it made me a better person.  When it comes to someone hurting my husband or children, I have a hard time forgiving or forgetting that....

Answer 2

From my own experience, you can forgive but you will never ever forget it and I don't believe you will ever trust the person 100% as you did before. The trust does come back but you are not as naive as you once were and realize that the both of you must always turn to each other first before ever turning to someone else. We now are not afraid to discuss anything with each other; I never was, but he was afraid to talk about his doubts and wants....not now, though! Our marriage is stronger and we will be able to get through anything after making it through this hurdle.

Answer 3

I think it really depends. You can forgive but it is harder to forget but I do believe that over time you can as long as the situation is not brought back up or you dont start seeing signs that leads you to believe someting just isnt right. I was betrayed and after the betrayer came clean and showed me he had chnged and stopped doing what he was doing I was able to trust him again. But 12 yrs later a situation came up that brought them old feelings back and now I feel like I almost have to start all over again. But this time I feel its easier because we are both older and things are different....