Can you give me some advice?

Question

I have been dating this girl and everything has been going pretty good but she doesn't seem like she wants to commit to an exclusive relationship. We have been dating for almost 6 months on and off. Whenever I ask her she says that she doesn't want to be tied down. Do you think she considers me a booty call or something? I really want to settle down but I don't want to waste my time with her if she isn't going to anytime soon. What should I do? I really like her and I don't want it to end but I do want to take the next step. :(

Answer 1

Advice. Put pants on.

Maybe that's why she thinks you're a booty call! Just a guess.

Edit: Sorry, Gr. :[

I can't help it. Sarcasm runs through my blood!

Don't be maddd. It's endearing, isn't it?

Edit: Hm. Okay! :]

Person. I forget your name. I am sorry, that was rude.

Forgive my extreme sarcasm.

You know, if she's willing to toss you to the side like that, just leave her. She's not worth it.

If it's been going on for a while [meaning, she's done it more than once] - she most likely always will.

Answer 2

"Whenever I ask her she says that she doesn't want to be tied down."

shes basically telling you that youre a booty call. leave her. you can do better than that. if someone cant commit to you after 6 months its pretty clear she wont anytime soon.get your heart out while you still can. theres a chance shell break it if

you stay with her.

edit: girl. thats sooo mean. lol ima have to so get mad at you. no more emails to you. jk jk.

shes sarcastic like that.shes really nice most times lol. forgive her.

edit: girl. its kk you know i cant hate ya. lol. but that one was a bit harsh lol. but yeah forgiven lol. you shouldnt be apologizing to me though lol.

edit: and rachel. BIG BEAR HUGS...love can suck sometimes.

Answer 3

I know it can be hard, but you have to move on. You want a serious relationship right now, and she doesn't. It will never work out.

Answer 4

Sounds like she is using you and is enjoying the attention you're giving her. Don't let anyone use you. If you want a serious and stable committed and intimate relationship, then that's a sign of maturity on your part. As much as it may hurt because you like so much, let her go if she can't reciprocate that. You all seem to want different things and that's not a good foundation for a relationship, especially the one you want. If you think she may come around, then give her a little bit more time but if not, then don't take it anymore. Look for someone who is crazy about you and wants an exclusive relationship with you. It's healthier, emotionally and physically, in the long term.

Answer 5

Agreed with "girl". Except don't put your pants on, KEEP your pants on unless she is willing to bend a little bit for you too.

Answer 6

You guys have only been dating for six months.  I'm thinking she thinks she needs more time.  Just give her some time.  Or do whatever, the choice is yours.

Answer 7

Sorry to tell you, on and off is not a relationship.there;s no on and off button on respect and monogamy, she was honest enough to tell you she doesn't want to date you and solely you, yet you have conditioned yourself to her standards because you clearly have feelings for her.

Maybe if she was to know that she could lose you altogether would make her give up her frolicking methods,

However, if she is not ready you cannot make her be ready by giving her an ultimatum.

My best advice, see other people as well.It's not fair to you to be exclusive to her when she sees your relationship with her as "tie down" situation