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Question

Ok, my husband and i married very young and despite statistics and what other people said we've been married for over 3yrs. The biggest things we fight about is my being a bit of a slob & saving money for some house he wants to buy next year. My father-in-law and i don't get along at all, as a matter of fact we haven't said anything kind to each other or about each other in 2yrs. My husbands grandparents (maternal) own a multi family home in the city, so the entire immediate family lives here, Just in their own apartments. 2yrs ago while the 3rd floor where i live now was being rented out i stayed in the extra bedroom in my MIL/FIL's apartment, my father-in-law came into my room one day as goes on a rant about how i'm not good enough for his family and i'm trash and he doesn't want me here (funny because his wifes family feels like that about him). So basically i left ...

Answer 1

Welcome to the Hispanic culture. Some Hispanics (especially old school ones) dont like black people. and those old schoolers they dont even like you if your not from their country! its stupid but true, it will be this way for the rest or your marriage! move out talk to your husband and tell him everything. they want you to leave your husband so dont let them win!!! los latinos that are born here have a different view but the latino that were born in their country (not all but alot) are racist. and just like i said not only by color but by country too. i know alot of mexicans hate peps from el slavador and so on. best bet get out  of that house and try and get your husband to bring your sil/bil over and take them to fun places. take they to chuckie cheese out to dinner and so on!!! teach them that "other" people(people that are not dominican) are cool and there is nothing wrong with be black, white, asian or from another country. because if you dont teach them they will listen to their parents and we NEED this cycle to break!! good luck and if your hubby is not that way then dont leave him because of his ignorant father!!

Answer 2

...the most important think you REALLY NEED is to pray; go in a quiet place and speak with God, HEIS WAITING  FORYOU.

Answer 3

Sounds like your ready to explode! I am a very well rounded, secure, rational and educated 43 year old who has been around the block too many times not to give you a rational answer to this situation. Now listen and listen good, you are very young, too young to be in a situation that is driving you crazy. I would just get up and leave and start a new life some where far away from those people. In the future be more careful who you choose to live with. Respect is a virtue, hold it in the highest honor when deciding who will be your next partner in your life and make sure it's mutual. Last off, don't ever sell yourself short again, hold out for that perfect someone or you will find yourself in that same situation again.

I don't know what this idiot is ranting about above me but I can also tell you from experience that praying may give you some inner peace of mind but won't do a d**n thing for your situation. God isn't going to waste a miracle on either you or me, it's up to you to make those changes in your life not God.

Answer 4

i think that if you are really uncomfortable and your husband is not supporting you then you guys should talk that out.or take a step back and look at your relationship....when he is gone do you live at his parents still? by the sound of things you might try to kill his dad if left alone. (not really kill kill)