Can you help me help my friend?

Question

shes married sometimes happily, well shes been having an affair with a married man. it is not emotional at all its only s*x. and it has actually helped their marriage. im conflicted because i dont think you should get married if your not serious about it although, she does honestly love her husband. well, she told me that shes found another married man shes thinking about having s*x with. what should i tell her?

Answer 1

What will your husband do if he finds out? How would you feel if your husband was doing this to you? What if you catch some disease and give it to your husband, what do you think he will do then?  You know right from wrong and you "know" what your doing is NOT right. If you want to keep having s*x outside of the marriage maybe a divorce is something you ought to consider because when you "truly" love someone you don't hurt them and your actions speak louder than your words. As your friend, I care about you and I don't want to see you get hurt. Just think about what I said because as your friend I won't lie to you but more important don't lie to yourself.

Answer 2

Tell her to either make up her mind to be married or not and then go with that and lose the man.