Can you help me stop crying?

Question

im really sad.

my whole life is changing.

3 of my best friends are moving.

im also in LOVE with one of them whos moving.... he has no idea that ive loved him for 3 years

and my BEST friend that i have known since we were babys is switching to a differnt school. ill see her but only 2 days a week.

my brother is going to college across the states and hes my hero and then one i look up to.

i dont no how to deal with this. im crying as i write this

im gunna miss them so freaking much, so much that i am close to just offing myself. i just dont no what to do. I HATE CHANGE

Answer 1

OMG ! I can relate to that too!

My brother is moving for boarding school, my mum is going back to malaysia which leaves me here in England, my dad's not well and when i start school it's going to be so different because the system is changing and new people are coming and i just hate it! I'm not antisocial or anything i just HATE effing change.

I cry and i'm depressed but i told my dad my feelings and my situation and at least he was a doctor so he was very understand but as for my mum it just didn't work out. She doesn't understand depression but i know she loves me and i love her.

I'm making the most of it with my brother in these last few days.

You can see therapy because they are the most understanding. Have you told the person you love that you love him? I think you should tell him because he's going to go and you will regret and regret is just going to make things worse and you'll start crying a lot more.

i hope this at least helps!!! good luck. i just want to tell you you're not the only one experiencing the worst of the worst

Answer 2

Well first just relax and breath. The one ur in love with tell him. U'll regret it if u don't. U will still be able 2 talk 2 ur best friend all the time and see her 2x a week it's gonna be ok and I mean I still keep in touch with one of my friends from camp and she lives in Maine and I live in NY so I nvr get 2 c her but we still talk and stuff and stay friends. I know how u feel about ur big brother. My older brother isn't off 2 college yet but he goes 2 a boarding skool so I don't c him that often but when he is here I make the best of it and u can still talk 2 him I cna't even talk 2 my bro when he's at skool but I get through it u will to, u just have 2 relax and enjoy life. When one door closes another one opens.

Answer 3

Step 1: Ensure your emotion is controlled daily. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get worry easily

Step 2: Think before your action. Don't repeat her past experience on herself. Remind herself from time to time.

Step 3: Be confident to yourselves. Remember everyone is the winner. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize an egg"

Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time

Step 5: Increase scope of life. Meaning that she should involve in more social activities like dancing, outing and others.

Step 6: Put a rubberband on the wrist. If there is a negative thought, Tighten the rubber band and release it. Hence the effect of the pain would be able to reduce the possibility of negative thought.

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Answer 4

lllaaattteee..........go save the drama for ur mama girl I'm just want to get this 2 loop only

Answer 5

Before you do anything drastic, just think of things from their perspective....

The guy you love is leaving probably because his parents are moving house, hopefully he will find new friends at the place where he will be moving to and be able to enjoy his life.

Your best friend probably wants to switch schools because the other school offers her a better chance, or education, or is closer to her parents home or work, its not as if she doesnt want to see you again.

Your brother is going to college so that one day he can get a great job and support himself and the family that he will one day have.

Think of things from their perspective and you will be able to see that they have a lot more to deal with than you do at the moment, so give them all the support that you can.

Answer 6

Effexor can help you.

or any SSRI or Tricyclic Antidepressant.

Go see a doctor, that's what I meant.

Answer 7

Time can help i understand that this is a big change for you i mean like its all happening so fast and its hard to take in but maybe you can branch out to others to help you through the pain in the meantime you can still all them. The pain will pass

Just remember that you will only let go if you want too

and dont ruin your life you may regret it later

Answer 8

the only permanent thing in this world is Change. i've also been thru that even up to now. but change teaches us to grow, its hard but we just have to accept it.  

Answer 9

I can relate. My best friend moved a couple of months ago, another really close friend recently switched schools, and a guy I've had on a crush on for quite a while also switched schools.

This is probably not what you want to hear - but just give it time. You'll meet new people and develop new relationships and still stay in touch with the old ones. Other than that, journaling and writing can really help. There are tons of sites where you can have a blog (livejournal, xanga, etc.) or you could just use pen and paper. Just writing about all the stuff that's going on and being honest about it can really help you cope with it.

Answer 10

i think everybody has been through this you will look back and realize that life almost never works out like you planed but thats ok just part of your development you will find more friends chin up I'll be alright  

Answer 11

cry! you are suffering a real loss in your life you should grieve for things/people of value. cry! it will help you cope with the loss. you are a very real person so i see no reason to give up. life is not fair or reasonable but it is something we are built to deal with however uncomfortable it makes us. love truly last a life time. it has taken me all my life to understand that. tmm

Answer 12

sweetheart it's imperative that you focus on YOURSELF. sadly, people are not always the best of friends or they just leave all of a sudden etc. you have to give YOURSELF the love you wish they gave to you. i know that feeling though. i used to cry but not anymore, everyone just takes care of themselves, you have to rely on yourself for happiness first.