Can you help me with my ex?

Question

Ok so I been dating this girl for about 9 months before we broke up. She broke up with me because I was extremely jelous over guys who were texting her and telling her they liked her. I would tell her to please not text them but she would text them all the time. Well now its four months later nothing has changed. We still kiss and stuff but she text these guys that like her all the time. Now its up to three or four different guys and I'm torn on what to do.

She says that I use to be her dream guy but then I started being mean. She says if I showed her that dream guy she would take me back instantly. Well I just don''t know what I should do.. should I bother trying to be this dream guy to get her back? She says she loves me but I didn't know love required you to be someone else.

Were both 17 yearsold and my 18th birthday is in two weeks. Her dads a circuit court judge so I really dont want to do anything to get me in jail. I have some serious black mail on her that will make her date me again but I really dont want to black mail her. I have black mailed her before and she gets so terribly mad. but I love her with all my heart and really want to be with her. I would never really tell her oparents the mail I know.

So what should I do? Should I keep trying to get back with her.. should I show her this dream guy or should I move on..

Answer 1

To many choices in this world....move on

Answer 2

Ok dude, have a seat.  Here we go.

>>  I was extremely jealous...

Chicks seem to have a problem with this.  You almost have to act like there is nothing they could do that would bother you even though it's tearing you up inside.  You must observe their behavior and determine for yourself if you can live with it or not without trying to change them even if she's trying to change you, which she will of course because, after all, she's a female.

>>  ...guys who were texting her (were)...telling her they liked her.

Let me guess, this girl is pretty good looking?  Of course she is.  She's getting attention and she likes it.  She's not about to shut the door on guys telling her she's a hottie.  Let her go on with her thing if it's what makes her happy unless she's playing kissy face with one of them.  When that happens, don't even bother with the other guy.  He's not the one who is supposed to be loyal to you, she is.  She will be the one at fault and at that point you will have to reevaluate your relationship with her.

>>  I would tell her to please not text them but she would text them all the time.

This is a display of her lack of respect for you.  Her idea is that you are an okay guy as long as you don't get in the way of her fun.

Forget the blackmail thing, it will only make her hate you.  It's a power thing and it will backfire in your face and you'll end up wishing you never thought of it.  It would also be very disrespectful of you to try something like that.  Surely you have more respect for her than that and if you don't, then she's certainly not the girl for you.

What should you do?  Here's your assignment.  Your going to get back with her and tell her your sorry that your so jealous and that you know it's a problem that you can fix if she can help you.  Then your going to mind your P's & Q's around her and keep your mouth shut about everything that bothers you about her behavior.  Your going to be a stupid smiling fool all happy and cheerfull just like the dream boy she wants.  Your going to do everything you have the power to do to keep her being the happiest little girl in all the land.  BUT...

Your going to observe very carefully over the next month how she behaves and if she has any respect for your wishes.  Who knows, if she's happy with you, she may begin to lose interest in her cheering section and focus more on what it takes to keep you happy as well.

Now, if she remains an attention hound and stays addicted to being the focus of other guys, you will then explain to her that although it's been a very nice time with her, your still having a problem with your jealousy issues.  Wish her well and move on.  

A girl who really has what it takes to win AND keep your heart will behave in such a manner so that you will not be uncomfortable with how she interacts with other men.  You will know that she can be trusted and you'll be much happier with her than with someone who you feel as though you have to watch closely.

Best Wishes and don't waste your time with someone who's behavior causes you mistrust.  It's not worth the pain.

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Answer 3

sounds like she's all about playing games with you guys. move on man.......life is too short for the B.S..

Answer 4

Honestly. She sounds like a big s**t. s**t.

You sound creepy and obsessed.

I got the creeps reading this.

"I have some serious black mail on her that will make her date me again but I really dont want to black mail her. I have black mailed her before and she gets so terribly mad. but I love her with all my heart and really want to be with her. I would never really tell her parents the mail I know. "

CRAZY MUCH?

Answer 5

.,you should move on..

.,never get to a complicated situation..

.,don't be a pathetic one..

.,find another..

.,don't try to get back onto a situation that you know at the end, you'll just get hurt..

Answer 6

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