Can you know if a relationship is going to work out before you really begin it?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two days officially. We were unofficial for three weeks before that - and for some reason or another - they were full of little fights and conflicts. The situation is tricky - I broke up with my last boyfriend just over a month ago because I had feelings for my current boyfriend. My current boyfriend and I have been very good friends for almost a year - I loved having him around and we always got on so well. My ex is also a friend of my current boyfriend. He hasn't said a word to me since I broke up with him and I live across the hall from him. In between thinking over till the small hours, whether I'm a bad person for breaking up with my ex, and how I should understand that he no longer wants anything to do with me, there have been several arguments and point of conflict between my boyfriend and I.

I want to think it's just the situation; that we're not incompatible - the timing is just poor and there are a lot of complications.

Another friend of mine (guy) said that it's destined to fail - that fighting this early is a sign it will be a failed relationship. I disagree with this, or at least I want to. I feel a long relationship doesn't just come easily in the absence of conflict - but that it is worked for through compromise etc. Without sounding too idealistic - I want to believe it can work out.

But can it? Am I being unrealistic?

And if it's likely that it will end - is it ethical to continue it knowing that he could get hurt more than i could?

Answer 1

it depends, if u have very few things in common it mite not work. Also u have to have similar morals for it to last. Fighting even before getting together mite be a little sign that it may not last in some cases but it depends on what kind of fights because everyone has fights but it depends on the severity of the fights.  

Answer 2

I do not have to read your whole story to answer your question..if you guys fought before the relationship or he did things that got on your nerves (vice versa), you had more arguments then intimacy then it's going to fail.

Plus it seems you guys have a lot of drama. Your dating your current boyfiriends friend AND you use to date the friend AND you live across the way from him...can we say Maury Povich, Jerry Springer..

You need a new boyfriend and move somewhere else

Answer 3

practicly imposible, yo will know that thru the pass of time