Can you love someone and all of a sudden start being interested in other people?

Question

I've been with my fiance now a little over 2 years. I've never cheated on him or wanted too. Were both Christians who were going to church regularly but we started kind of slipping away from that. We started partying, and I now drink occasionaly. Anyway all of a sudden I find myself attracted to other guys and even entertaining the idea of starting something on the side with someone else. I don't want to end the relationship but I feel like I want to meet other people. Whats going on????

Answer 1

Either you don't love him as much as you thought you did... or you really need to repent and get out of the partying lifestyle.  There's nothing wrong with consuming alcohol, but there is a problem with getting drunk and getting into that whole lifestyle.  So I'd advise you stop the partying, realize that God sees you in everything that you do, and ask yourself if He is pleased with what you do.  If not, then stop it.  And maybe when you stop partying and stuff, your heart will be faithful to your fiance because it will be faithful to God again.  So get right with Him - and then him.  If you can't do that, break up with your fiance.

Answer 2

Its satan trying to tempt you into the worldly acts, and you don't want to fall into them. If you do, you will ahve a VERY difficult time of getting out.  Stop all this partying and drinking and get back to your true roots.

Answer 3

That's not love and if you want to be with other people you need to end it. If you really like this guy don't hurt him that way break it off. In case you ever wanted to hook back up, that would make you and him enemies .  

Answer 4

if you both stopped partying and stopped drinking would that fix whatever is 'wrong' in your relationship?  

Answer 5

If you feel that way and you do love your fiance then be honest with him, Let him know how you are feeling. If he was your first bf, then maybe you want to see what is out there, but don't cheat, it is beneath people. and i would say 95% of the time regretted.

Answer 6

you have been with your man along time. its normal to feel scared - especially now you are getting married - plus you are having a new life style part of you feels you missed out... or that you havent tryed everything/ everyONE!

this doesnt mean you dont love your fiance, dont do anything, feelings like this should pass, dont cheat.

maybe even go to church a bit more - but you dont have too.

dont cheat. do more with your fiance. hopefully you should remember just how much you love him and the feelings will pass!  

Answer 7

it seems like its just the partying your really into not other dudes. maybe since you havent let loose your trying to make up with it. if your worried about your man. just try new things WITH him. new things will sometimes spark up a staled relationship. and trust me, if you start something on the side. the moment you've finished with whatever it is your doing with your new guy, your going to feel like c**p.

Answer 8

U are just confused, the worldly pleasures can be a bad place, but left to u, nobody can make the chioce but u, feel like partying, just tell him, however, no regrets. see what happens after. never know he could feel the same way.  

Answer 9

Its Not Love It Lust.... When in a Relationship YOu May Think You love someone but you really don't. When you Feel that you attracted to other or feel like you have feelings for another person go with your first mind and do you.

Answer 10

Your growing up in the real world and now that you have experienced stuff you want to experience more stuff.

As a christian i advise to not drink or party any more and to return to the lord and ask for forgiveness. As a young woman I will advise you to not tell your boyfriend the questioning of your relationship. Think about it and think about what you want personally  

Answer 11

Hmm, well it sounds like to me, you might be getting cold feet about getting married. Is the wedding coming up soon? I think its something alot of people go through, and if I am wrong, than maybe its something else going on. Obviously your fiance isn't fulfilling your needs, what ever they may be! There is definitely something missing in your relationship now, and maybe you are trying to search for it else where. I wish you luck.. hope this helped a little..  

Answer 12

TAKE A BREAK from your fiance. Tell him you need some time to sort things out. It's totally normal to be interested in other guys, especially once you've been with someone for a long time like you have. I don't want to tell you another guy won't become just as "routine" after 2 years, but you shouldn't get married if you're considering something on the side. Do your fiance the honor of not cheating on him - and leave the door open to go back to him down the road.

Answer 13

This could be a passing thing, everyone has urges ocassionally, but think if its worth the relationship you two have?

Answer 14

What is going is that you obviously don't love him as much as you think you do if you are so bored with him you want to get a little something something on the side.

Answer 15

My guess is you had been living a lie. You had made changes in your life probably to appease him. These things seemed right at the time but now you are returning to your natural ways. Translation: That wasn't the real you. This is. It's probably time to wish him well and move on.

Answer 16

That's typical.  The grass always seems greener on the other side.  Whether it is or not is always up for debate.  How many people did you date before him?  If he's your first, you are going to be much more prone to this.

Answer 17

Think about it.  Read your question over again and again and then you will find your answer.