Can you marry a guy in a month a stay married?

Question

I met a guy over the internet and have found myself falling in love with him. We have been spending a lot of time together and we have talked about marriage. I have found my soulmate. We have a lot of things in common, he gets along great with my children and my family. we have had a few people to downgrade our relationship but its easy when they are on the outside looking in. What can we do?

Answer 1

If you ask this question, you should wait a few more months before considering marriage. What's the rush?

Answer 2

You are not in love with him after a month.  Date him for a while longer, get to know each other better, and make an informed, adult decision for your sake, and for the sake of your children.

Answer 3

It is certainly possible to know someone for a month, get married, and stay married. I think that often when people rush into something, things don't work out. That doesn't mean that this will happen to you, you are the only one who can make that descision. Just remember that a month isn't a very long time to get to know someone, so if you were to get married, there would end up being a lot of surprises in the future. And maybe they'll all be good surprises! Who knows? It's up to you.

Answer 4

My fiance and I told eachother two weeks in we were getting married, and engaged two months later. 2 years later (not married yet because we want to be stable financially first) were still together, totally in love and I cant wait to marry him! His brother got engaged four months in, just got married last month after a year and a half engagement and they're happy. His parents were engaged 5 months in, married 8 months later and still together. His grandparents were engaged 2 weeks in, and married until his opa died last year. On the other hand, my aunt dated her ex husband 6 years and there now divorced. It all depends on the person and I'm an honest believer that when you know, you know. HOWEVER, remember that people do change and there will be things that irritate you about the other person. Things wont always be roses and perfect like in the 'honeymoon' stage, but if its your soulmate, they're still pretty great! good luck!

Answer 5

Sure you could marry him after a month, but why not wait just a bit. If its true love, it will be true love in a year. I think you should wait a year to make sure everything is okay and give you lots of time to plan.

Answer 6

If he's really your soul mate, what's the rush?  Soul mates should be around for a very long time.  Does he need a green card or something?  

Relax.  Enjoy each other.  Date.  Try living together for a while (maybe a year or so).  Save up your money so you can have a proper wedding (or you could always elope and save the money for a new home).

Answer 7

Maybe

Answer 8

You need to do whatever makes you happy. My in-laws knew each other for two weeks and have been married for 54 years.

Answer 9

It's possible!.But do understand that it is going to be extremly hard!!! As long as you guys know that there are a lot of things you dont know about each other! If your open minded to learning about each other's differences and likes, then you just may go extremely far!!

Answer 10

Depends entirely on you and the guy. But as a rule, I wouldn't recommend it to most people.

Answer 11

Of course there are love stories about couples who marry after a month and make it for decades...h**l some even for just a few days before they wed.

But in all honesty the chances are way against you on this one.  Since there are children involved I think you should take it slowly and be very cautious before you let them get attached only to have it end badly.  You have a responsiblity as a mother to protect them and rushing headlong into a marriage with a guy you met a month ago on line just isn't the greatest of ideas.  The second your first child was born your life stopped bieng all about what YOU want, their best interests come first!  If this guy is any sort of father figure he will realize that as well.   If you feel the need to have an obvious commitment then go ahead and get engaged.....just make it a long one!

I met my fiancee online.  We've been together for 5 years and will be married as soon as my health improves.  There was alot of skeptics at the start of our relationship.  I'm not telling you this to encourage you to marry this guy right now.  I'm telling you so you know I'm not trying to knock you simply because you met online or only because you've been dating a month.  If there were no kids involved I'd say get a good prenup and do whatever you want.

Answer 12

Honestly I don't think it's a wise choice at all. But whatever you need to make you happy.

I do know someone who I am pretty close to and she came over from Scottland on vacation with a friend for 7 days...within those 7 days she found a man and 'fell in love'. They got married on the 7th she was in the US and she hasn't gone back to Scottland since then. It's been 10 yrs. They're happily married and have a son together.

IT CAN happen...but it normally doesn't happen that way and I WOULDN'T suggest it.

Answer 13

stranger things HAVE happened. but to be honest, as soonn as you said "I met a guy over the internet..." My first thought was that this relationship was made of fail.

Answer 14

It will work if you want it to.  No matter how long you've known each other, every successful marriage takes commitment.