Can you offer up a little support?

Question

i have broken up yet again with a guy i did not need to be messing with.

i was with him for five years. i am going cold turkey. no contact that sort of thing. but i do not have much immediate support. i am going to counseling once a week, but that is every Tuesday. he has not tried to contact me and i suppose most people will think that is great. it hurts like h**l. i have posted in the past about this very thing. it is so hard. maybe one of the hardest things i have ever done. the man is married. and i was not told that when we first got together. the part where i am to blame is that i did not make him leave me alone the second time he reapproached me when i finally found out. i made him leave me alone the first time though. being alone a few years will do that to you. can someone please tell me how to move on from this. and please know that it is not as easy as some of you might try to make it sound.

Answer 1

I think that you should find some things to take your mind off it. Time heals all wounds, please believe. The only thing I can say for future reference, don't deal with someone that is really not available. I find it insulting when someone is married or has a girlfriend that actually tries to talk to me, because basically they're letting you know. I just want a side girl and nothing more.

Answer 2

Distract yourself..If you have money in the bank, it is definitely best used for times like this.  Go on vacation to a place by yourself for yourself.  Focus on you!  Remind yourself that you are an individual and that all you need is yourself.  Love is best saved for those people who enhance and bring great qualities in you and help you change the bad ones.  Love isn't for those who hurt you and/or demolish your self respect.  If someone has hurt you like this, they don't deserve to know you.  Muster up your self respect by reminding yourself of all of your good qualities, and move on.