Can you people give me some support?

Question

Im 14 years old.I am planing on staying pure until im married.Now theres a lot of ppl saying oh your husband wont be pure or you cant do it.I really need some support because now I think maybe I cant do it!Can you please give me some support???And no bad answers saying i cant do it please!

Answer 1

good for you hun. you stick to your beliefs and wishes.  hard as it may be....people will always have negative and non supportive comments on many issues in you life- as you will find out.

of course you can do it!!

you arent the first and  you wont be the last. hopefully you can get some answers from others here that are going thru or have gone thru it.

Your decision is yours alone to make, and letting others into your head and thoughts about such personal topics maybe isnt the best thing to do if you experience this kind of feedback.

ask yourself a few ?'s....are you doing this to impress someone else? are you thinking ahead to whether or not a future husband will be pure as well?

like i said its your decision and you dont have to discuss it with anyone. dont let anyone bring you down. you go girl. all the best to you!!

Answer 2

It's very simple. You're in charge of who you sleep with. You make the decision, therefore you need to repeatedly remind yourself why you wish to do this. Tell yourself the reasons why and soon enough it'll just come natural to you to decline s*x before marriage.

Good luck, all you have to do is keep your legs closed, pretty simple. :)

Answer 3

Keep it simple.  Right now you need to be paying more attention to your Algebra than boys.

Just remember waiting is rewarding.  Does not mean you will not date, but you know that you have standards and will not give them up.  I am proud of you.

Answer 4

In this day and age a lot of people believe that 'staying pure' until your married is an outdated practice and they may have a point.  HOWEVER, if you want to stay pure, for whatever reason, don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise.  It's your body, it's your decision.  You seem like a very strong girl, I believe that you can do it!  And good for you for making this personal choice!

Answer 5

You can. Who cares what people think?

Answer 6

You can do anything if you truly want to. I'll be honest, my hubby was far from pure when I met him. But when we started dating I was a virgin. He's the only man I ever slept with. Granted, if we had broken up instead of falling in love, I would have lost it to just another boyfriend. But after dating many guys (I was 23 when I met him) I really felt I was ready and that he was it for me. Turns out I was right. I also made him wait a few months to be sure he was the one for me. We've now been together 5 years, married for 1 and are expecting our first child in January. Good luck girl! You can do it!

Answer 7

I have a daughter that is 13, so I can understand your situation.  I'm telling my daughter that she can do ANYTHING she sets her mind to, whether it is friends, school, drugs, alcohol, or s*x and I would say the same thing to you.  I would suggest that you look inside yourself and find the reason(s) why you might not be abstinent until you marry.  Will it be peer pressure, "love", boyfriend pressure, because you want to get pregnant and that is a way to get out.  I would also suggest that you live your life with a 3-day rule.  No major decisions for 3 days.  If you want to have s*x, wait 3 days and see if you still want to.  3 days isn't very long, but sometimes it is long enough.  You CAN do it and I wish you all the luck in the world!

Answer 8

If You Really Believe In It,

Then Yes You Can Do It Babes,

Ignore What Other People Sayy

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Answer 9

I know you can do it. I did it! And my honeymoon was amazing! You know, I'm so encouraged by your question. Usually people your age ask questions such as "I'm pregnant help". I'm thankful to see there are still good girls out there. My advice is, it's going to be hard! It was hard for me! When you get a serious boyfriend you're going to want to be intimate with him. It's human nature! The trick is not to do anything! Not even kiss. What happens in relationships is the law of the diminishing effect. At first a kiss gives you butterflies, then it isn't so exciting so you move on to something new then that gets old and you keep going farther. So if you want to stay pure, try your hardest not even to kiss until the pastor says "you may now kiss your bride". I know you can do it. Your marriage will be so much sweeter if you wait. And I'm confident you'll find that special someone who is willing to wait for you too. I'll be praying for you!

Answer 10

Of course you can stay pure until your married.  Just ignore the people who tell you different.  Whether your future husband is pure or not is not relevant to what you have decided to do now - so don't let that old argument sway you.

By the way, what they are playing is a very old game - everyone else is doing it so why not you.  The answer is "I don't have to and you can't make me."

Answer 11

Of course you can do it!! All you have to do is ignore all the people saying you can't or won't. Just listen to your heart and your conscience, and remember that you are doing the right thing! Be very proud of yourself for wanting to commit to such a mature and responsible idea! You CAN DO IT....I know you can and YOU know you can! Kudos to you!