Can you please help me? PLEASE!?

Question

My father divorced my mother when I was nine, I am now a 13 year old male. Since then, Even before the papers were signed and offically divorced, my mother has been bringing Guys, (much younger, always in 20s) to where ever we are living and they have s*x and it pisses me off. My mother is around 40. She has done this SO SO SO many times and 2 years ago with this one guy she got pregnant and had the baby adopted and she has still been ******* around with this guy for all this time and now she just continues to and for the past several months she has been smoking marijuana with him and this makes her so hard to deal with because she is alredy bipolar and depression and now she is high to? she is so ridicoulas and hard to deal with she snaps in a instant and when she is high she just doesnt care or understand anything im saying and she trys to start fights with me and Tonight she did this agian and im wondering what to do? PLEASE HELP I could have gotten into a lot more but theres so much that makes me angry im about to cry just thinking of everything PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO! btw my father and I are VERY close but he lives with this lady who he married and her daughter and i can't stand them so i feel trapped SHOULD I TELL THE POLICE ABOUT MY MOTHER AND DRUGS? PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

why do you hate the stepmother and her daughter?  That seems a better option than putting up with your mother and her wild ways.  If you tell the police, you will probably be moving in with your father. It is a very sad situation you are in, make a decision you can live with.

Answer 2

First of all just think about what will happen if you do call the police on your mother.  They will probably arrest her, you will be either placed with your father or in foster care temporarily, then they may place you back in her care when she is let out.  Is living with her that bad that you would rather live in care, or with your father?  I think that is a decision you have to make, as nobody is going to understand how bad you are feeling at the moment.

Just remember as much as your mum pisses you off now, and you feel like you have some sort of loyalty to her at the moment, when you grow up and move out of home everything will be much easier to deal with :)

Just try and work out what you want to do, look after yourself and try not to worry about your mum.  She is the only one that can make any changes within her life, and you calling the police will probably not make the situation any better for her, probably only worse.  

While I understand that you love and care for your mum, you also need to love and care for yourself as you are only 13 and shouldn't have to be worrying about these sort of things at this age.  

Good luck and take care hun  

Answer 3

I don't advise the police, because they will probably arrest her and put you in another home... Which is what you don't want. This should be your last and final resort.

Tell your school counseler. They understand and know how to deal with teens with abusive parents, from the smallest to biggest problems, trust me!  They won't jump out and call the police if you explain your whole situation. They will probably call a social worker, who will make your mom take sessions that will shape up her life. If that goes well, you'll probably be living together (but until then you might have to stay with your dad).

On another topic, if both you and your stepsister hate that woman your father married, by all means tell him! Explain the whole situation to him--you say you are close and that means he probably really cares about you, and cares about your happiness above all. (caring parents put their children before themselves, believe me!)  

Answer 4

Dont tell the police about your mother but u should try and live with ur father.   even if u hate his wife and he daughter. it is better than living with someone who is out of control

Answer 5

First off you should never hit your mother. Not even threaten her. Tell a relative that lives near to you what is going on and see if you can live with them until your mom stops her behaviors.

Answer 6

Tell your father, Tell your family, the last place you should probably go is the police cause they might put you in a group home, although they could also order the closest and most suited of your family to take care of you.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. TELL EVERYONE, including the police.

Grow up and be smart

Your mother will never change, she will never lose her bipolar disorder, she wont stop smoking pot for you or fufilling the emptiness inside her with frequent s*x.

GET HELP

Answer 7

YES, tell the police.

You don't deserve this.

Answer 8

If you call and report her to CPS, you will end up living with your father or, worse, in a foster home. You are really in a terrible situation there. Do you have other relatives you could live with?  Eventually when the housing is worked out, you should report her to the police or CPS.