My grandmother and grandfather are both in their 90s and can not live on there own. Rather than move to a senior assisted living facility they bullied my mother into coming to live with her. She, being a very nice woman, had agreed.
It has been 3 years since they have come to live with her. At first, they could mostly do for themselves with my mother just doing the cleaning and cooking. At the time my mother could also leave them by themselves for a weekend while she visited friends and other relatives.
Now, my mother is doing a lot of "personal" care for both of them. My mother can no longer leave them alone for a weekend or even a whole day by themselves. She can no longer go on vacation with other family members and can't even see her grandchild for a weekend visit.
My grandmother, in particular, has become like a child - she wants her way NOW. She is very strong willed and of sound mind. She does not want to go an assisted living facility. Why would she when she makes my mother wait on her hand and foot.
I know my mother is becoming very stressed over the situation. Plus she wants to she her grandchild more often and go visiting people. However, my grandmother has refused to go to a home. She is of sound mind. However, she is also mostly deaf, mostly blind, and needs help bathing and cleaning. She cannot cook for herself. My grandfather is better off in that he can get around okay.
My mother would like for them to go to home but they don't want to. Can we somehow make them? (I know it sounds heartless but my mother is just exhausted taking care of their every whim)
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