Can you really get to know a person via phone, email and Y!M?

Question

To the extent that you place your entire trust and faith in that person. Even if other's try to show you the real pesonality which is totally different to what you see.

Answer 1

No.  It takes time to know a person really well.  What you hear on the phone, read from messages may not actually reflect a person's true character.  Not unless you have met and communicated with him for some time can you honestly measure a person's trustworthiness.

Answer 2

NO, its best to see everything.

I want to observe facial expressions,body language, the way she act around other people and especially around relatives and the way all of them act around her. I will pay close attention as to who is her relatives specifically to determine if they really are a blood relative.

I would be like a blood hound sniffing out everything because I am not a dumb #ss. I refuse to be used and abused.

I would do this without showing that I am a skeptic.

Answer 3

not really.

Answer 4

You can get to know them but not to the extent you state.

PR states a good case. If you aren't prepared to meet face to face then you must be hiding something.

Answer 5

Absolutely not.  The internet is one of the easiest modes of deception ever invented.  Thats why such prolific scams and swindles are done with using it.  You need to be very diligent and perceptive when using technology to establish any kind of relationship.  God gave us all certain kinds of ability to evaluate people we meet.  Most of those abilities/receptors are blinded when using internet.  There are bad people everywhere mixed in with the good people.  Be careful.

Answer 6

Yes I think you can get to know people really well via phone, email and YM. I only trust people who are willing to meet or show themselves because that would prove that they aren't all talk and they can back up their words.

Answer 7

yes

Answer 8

Yes. I have more than once trusted a few people I have met via phone, email and YM alone. When you talk to the person in a long period of time, somehow you know the level of their trustworthiness. Finally meeting them is an affirmation of what I believe is true. I still have faith in people. I have very good friends whom I have met on line. We may have seen each other not more than thrice but they prove to be good inside out.

Once or twice I came across people who don’t value the confidence you have bestowed on them by passing on info to other people. There are people who are willing to share confidential things to public in exchange for their "loyalty". I don't really mind them; I just stop feeding them info. I know who to trust and I trust them with a good reason. I listen whenever someone tries to tell me otherwise but I still put weigh on the level of acquaintance I have for the person. It can work both ways. Maybe I know the person better than them or maybe they have a motive behind. Let’s say I weigh things accordingly. No blind judgments.

Answer 9

Yes

I met and married my Filippina bride that way. two years of messenger chatting first then the wedding.

now we have been happily MARRIED for two years !!!

Answer 10

Possible, but dangerous. Might cost you your life. =)

Answer 11

uh,, yeah.. [:

Answer 12

nope, you can never really know a person until you see them. and even then, it will still take some time before you see their true colours.  the phone, email, YM is like alcohol. it can TURN you into someone you're really not. i'm not saying that this is true for everyone, but how do we know who's for real, and who's putting on a show?

there are alot of people who are secure behind these masks of modern technology, because they know they are safe in their anonymity. and behind these masks, they can contrive new personas, maybe to spark reactions and interests from people that their true character cannot achieve.

Answer 13

i wouldn't do it .it's hard enough finding some one to trust that you see everyday.  get a web cam so you can see who you are talking to and see what's happening in the back ground. good luck

Answer 14

Yess...I've played Runescape and I've dated 1-2 people

and u really do get to trust them and love them to death

i've been with this guy i met there and its been 2 years already

and i love him to death and i trust him completely..we are planning

to meet soon and it is very true even if u dont no the person in real life

you get to trust them...

Answer 15

yes u can.  

Answer 16

Real life is a whole new level and will overpower anything you have establsihed with your online lives. You need a reality check, and keep those feelings at bay. You might only set yourself up for disappointment if your expectations aren't met when you do finally meet her and she doesn't turn out as consistent as her online persona. For all you know her online persona is as fabricated or perhaps a polished version of her real self.

But what you can do is bank upon this online intimacy, and improve on it. Meet her in person if you can, make that sacrifice if you think this is worth pursuing. Nothing beats contact and a personal encounter that might result into a loving relationship or perhaps maybe even a lifelong friendship.

Answer 17

It's very much possible. I met my husband on the internet and we chatted for a few weeks. After that, we talked on the phone every single day for over a year before meeting in person. Many judged us but we knew what we were getting ourselves into.

That was 7 years ago.