Can you suggest some creative ways?

Question

to get the people I lodge, feed, wash and care for ( that's a husband, 2 grown up kids and a dog) to help around the house so I can spend more time here?

Answer 1

So , you want a quick fix for over 20 years of learned behaviour do you ...?

Okay , it just happens that I may be able to help out BUT it's going to cost you !

Firstly , YOU learn to say no ....enoughs enough ! You draw up a team roster , boys & girls if you like or mixed  , then allocate days to each team whereby that team takes responsibility for meal preparation & general housekeeping duties...by the way , you & your hubby are not to be on the same team !

The team not on daily duties takes responsibility for laundry duties ...doesn't need to be a daily chore but as necessary !

A copy of the roster to be posted in a prominent position & marked off as tasks are accomplished.

Now if this fails there is a very good resource called Boundaries by Townsend & Cloud...make sure you get it & that all members of the household read it !

Now , about payment.....we'll negotiate !

Answer 2

Hide their stuff and ask them to help u If they want their stuff back, and no worries abt the dog , he will just need something to eat.

@Belier, lol, look who is talking :P

Answer 3

Yes.  There are plenty of suggestions coming from an experienced mother...  Leave everything as it is.  Don't touch anything...  They will finish by doing SOMETHING.

.......But how can u get the dog to help????????

Answer 4

Go on STRIKE! They will soon get sick of dirty clothes and hungry belly's. Sheeeez they are big enough to carry a bit of the load and do they not know what cool people you wish to spend your time with...lol

Answer 5

Ignore the house work hoping that it will do itself and come spend as much time as you want here, that's what I do.

Answer 6

No help no chocolate, and no food also, u make ur own plate, they must manage to eat their won food until they realize they SHOULD help you out.

Answer 7

make as i do. Go alone for a 2 months trip, far away withouth think how they will manage themselves in the time u'll be outsise.

Be sure that they will try to do their best, bcoz on the contrary they wont eat.........wont have clean and  washed clothes and will have the beds full of insects.

That's the best way for them to learn the value a mother has in a house.

Dont fell sorrow at them.

Enjoy !!!!!!!!