Can you suppress memories?

Question

I've done some unforgiveable things. No nobody was murdered or raped. But still they are things I cannot forgive myself for. To be honest I'm borderline sucidial. I'm having a depression. Everyone is worried about me because I wont tell them. I'm just too ashamed. So I wondering does anybody know of any methods to suppress memories or forget things or something anything. The things I did are not me and I don't know why I did them. The idea that I'm almost the same as the other people who have done the same and feel fine about it hurts. I hate myself.

No matter who I tell I will know I did this. I made these mistakes. I'm the one who has to deal with myself for the rest of my life. And I don't want to be that way.

Answer 1

U have shouldn't feel so ashamed. Everyone makes mistakes. But i don't know how u can suppress ur memories? U can't unless u deal with them. By ur self.

To help u cope, start a diary on ur computer, and write everything u ever did (that u think was bad or a mistake) from ur earliest memory and just let it all flow out. Don't think about what ur writing, just do it. I sound to easy, but trust me, it works.

I hope it helps u feel better. And i hope that maybe u can tell someone u trust that won't judge u after a while. There is no way to suppress ur memories, really children do that. I'm sorry and hope u  

Answer 2

You can't. Sorry to tell you. All I can say is that you NEED to tell someone! You will feel better if you get this out. If you want, you can IM me or email me. Everyone makes mistakes. I've done things I'm not proud of too, so I don't judge people.  

Answer 3

‘Guilt’ just won’t let you be. It takes on a life of its own, surfacing every now and then. You become depressed and suicidal to increasing degrees, until you’re a complete wreck.

Granted you've done something unforgiveable…but if you ‘suppress memories or forget things’ the actions mayn’t stop - you  just mayn't recall doing them anymore.

Take it as the signal for you to stop running away from reality. You need to face up to your action with courage. Yes, you do need to remember exactly what you’ve done, and understand clearly why, to be able to set your self in order.

Fact is there’s a gap between the ‘nice you’ that people see on the surface, and the ‘un-nice you’ that hides within. When you say, “The things I did are not me and I don't know why I did them”, it appears that you identify with the ‘nice’ part, but the ‘un-nice’ part you reject as not you. Truth is that’s also a part of you, and you need to recognize it, accept it and own it, for the gap between the two sides of you – nice/un-nice - to be resolved.

It may be wise to seek professional help immediately, to enable you to put things in perspective, to make restitution, and to forgive yourself.

Answer 4

This is something that you need to talk about.  You have to see someone and talk about what you did, they can use hypnotherapy on you to help you work through and forget the things you have done.  Please don't do anything stupid, there are people that love you and that want to help you through this.  Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers

Answer 5

Yea you can. But not by yourself. How desperate are you to lose this memory? cause a shrink could help you and that costs a lot of money. Hypnosis can help you suppress it but you can never erase a memory (without injuring your head). At least not if it's a emotionally striking memory.

The best way to deal with a memory is head on. You have to at least find someone to share it with, someone you trust.

Trust me I've been in the same situation (maby not as bad though) and the only way to really get over it is to come out to someone.

I believe that even telling me, or any other anonymous person on the internet would make you feel a little bit better.

Answer 6

Everyone makes mistakes, accept the fact that you made them, and move on.  Suppressing the them or simply avoiding the thoughts will only cause more problems.

If something you did may have seriously harmed another human being physically or mentally you need to let someone know.